He has so many wonderful quailties he treats me like a queen and he adores me we are the same relgion /many common interests /think along the same lines ,I love him however he doesnt see that its important to me to see him look nice ex. cut nails/clean cloths/ear&nose/ear hair can be seen outside the ear/nose lol i know it sounds funny someone help with suggestions advice i have told him its important to me it should be imporatnt to him also help
2007-02-21 09:19:07 · 12 answers · asked by LDSLADY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thank you lil_sis i appricate your adivce I have told im in a unoffencive way he works on some things and then goes back to his old ways i told him like this would you like to hold my hands and cuddle with me cut your nails and clean your self up and you can we are engaged not living together and i was thinking of telling him the same when we get married you want to sleep in the same bed and have the bennifts of mariage than clean up
2007-02-21 09:36:26 · update #1
Well to me there is nothing wrong with someone making personal hygiene important as it should be.Those r things that some men don't care about but should for it grosses many people out n makes them look unclean.That is something that he should do anyways and he should thank u for telling him to do something about it cuz some people can b a lot more cruel.I wouldn't want to stay with someone if they couldn't keep themselves tidy n not just for me but for himself as well.Things like that r usually taught from a young age and people who don't is usually bcuz of there religion which makes it that they can't groom certain areas or use deodorants etc....Good luck n just keep being nice about it but really stress how it means a lot to u that a man grooms himself.Who knows maybe when he does it will b enough for u to b turned on lol... well u know what I mean.Tell him as best as possible.U could always volunteer to help.Have a wonderful wk n ciao 4 now
2007-02-21 09:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what to tell you to do because I think the fact that he treats you so good takes precedent over looks. Yeah I guess you do need to be attracted to him but what caught your attention to him in the first place? Try to brag or compliment him on the things you do love, that way when you have the keeping it clean conversation it wont make him feel like a complete loser. It could be really cool if you show him how nice he can look if he does do those things. I think you could do it for him once then make it a point to keep your hands all over him. This way he will be like "whoa I look good and shes all over me " Get my drift
2007-02-21 17:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by charityislove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is important to you, but you fell in love with him the way he is. People are sometimes hard to change. I will admit my husband is a slob. He dresses and looks like a bum. Is it embarrassing sometimes, yes, but you learn not to care what other think. If you really love him and he really loves you then you two will compromise. He might not clean up 100% but a little is better than none. Or I know this sounds bad, but do not clean up yourself for a while. Once he sees that maybe he will see what he looks like. Does that make sense? I know it will be hard but try. Good luck.
2007-02-21 17:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by lil_sis458 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks are important. Not the most important. I feel you have to be attracted to the person your with. Tell him to fix himself up.
2007-02-21 17:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by sanj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat, and i have no clue. My mother said i should talk to him, but i don't want to give him a low self-esteem. Good luck.
2007-02-21 17:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by Miss C.J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him unoffensively that cleanliness is next to godliness...
Adam & Eve didn't have toe nail clippers either, but they had nobody else to judge.
2007-02-21 17:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either just subtly hint at the potential rewards of keeping tidy or tell it straight: personal hygeine=more attractive=more sex. That'd work
2007-02-21 17:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by David P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the barber and have them show him how to cut his nails and hairs.
2007-02-21 17:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him for a massage...a back massage...and wearr nothing but a thong...see what developes from there...
2007-02-21 17:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by LovePinkPuffies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that if he doesn't start taking care of himself you will be very unsatisfied sexually and refuse to sleep with him. don't touch him
2007-02-21 17:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋