I'm sorry but if my man went to a strip joint I would be pretty upset. I consider it cheating. Men and ladies, tell me why or why you don't think strip joints are acceptable places for committed men?
2007-02-21 09:06:43 · 18 answers · asked by AmandaHugNKiss 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Many men look at strippers and desire to have sex with them in their mind. To me it is the same as cheating.
2007-02-21 10:52:19 · update #1
I think it's acceptable as long as both parties agree that it is. I personally would find it a distasteful way to spend one's time, and simply would never consider a relationship with a man who's idea of fun includes strip clubs. There are other things I consider distasteful, which include drinking too much, doing drugs, losing one's temper; each one of these would be a deal-breaker to me. I'm not going to condemn the way other people have fun - to each their own; but my choice of a mate would include how closely their ideas of what's acceptable match mine.
2007-02-21 09:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but if my girlfriend went to a strip joint, I wouldn't be upset, nor would I consider it cheating. Of course, every couple has their own definition of what "cheating" is; you haven't explained why you think it's cheating, but I'll explain why I think it's not.
Strip clubs are all about a fantasy, and that's why people go. He can be anyone he wants to be, and find any kind of girl he wants to find. There's no emotion involved, nobody will judge him for his fantasies. It's a visual stimulation that doesn't have anything to do with anyone he's involved with (and perhaps that's what upsets women).
It's harmless fun, and it doesn't hurt anybody. At most strip clubs, there's a strict policy enforced by the bouncers; the dancer can initiate contact and touch the patron, but NEVER the other way around.
Are some women so possessive and insecure that they can't stand the thought of their men going out with his friends to a place packed with beautiful girls? He's coming home to you, isn't he? Then don't worry about it. Or go with him next time so you actually know what you're talking about.
If it's the money spent at strip clubs, then I can understand that; the quick and fun solution is to give your man a striptease and lap dance to see if he ever goes back to pay for it ever again.
I can't say whether or not it's an acceptable place to be, but I can say that it's not cheating.
2007-02-21 17:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
it all boils down to one thing...trust.
most strip joints are eye candy, i.e. look but do not touch. if you as a woman do not trust your guy, i can understand that you'd get upset if he saw another girl without clothes. however, if you do trust your guy, then what is the harm? they are not doing anything to threaten your relationship...they are not touching the girl, or having relations with the girl. if you consider just looking at another girl cheating, then if your guy watched porn or bought a playboy, then it'd be cheating as well. and hey, guys are guys...women need to understand that. and so long as there is trust, there shouldn't be a problem.
hey, if my wife went to a male strip joint, all the power to her. i bet she'd have a great time. i trust her to go and look, and that's all. there's no harm in that. she comes home to me, and she can act out any fantasy she wants with me.
anyway, believe it or not, but a lot of guys go to the strip joint and end up watching the sports on tv. i've seen it.
2007-02-21 18:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by sevasxes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you all of a sudden think it is cheating
so if he looks at another girl in the store he is cheating?
if he goes to the beach and looks at a girl in a bikini then he is cheating?
oh my what a sorry excuse for a life he has right now, can't even look at anyone or all of a sudden it is cheating
look, you may have the wrong concept of cheating, cheating is not really just looking or admiring, cheating involves getting involved with a person on a level higher than friends
certain behaviour may be inapropriate but you are way too quick to label everything that does not go along with your ideals as cheating
2007-02-21 18:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because if a man is in a serious relationship then why would he feel the need to go to some trashy strip club and look at other women when he could look at the one that he loves.
Strip clubs are trashy and I think that only trash goes there but that is only my opinion if my husband went to a strip club then he wouldn't be coming home.
2007-02-21 17:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm ok with my husband going to the strip club if he's going with his buddies for some kind of occasion like a bachelor party. I wouldn't like it so much if that's where he wanted to hang out all the time! I've been to the strip club in town and while its not my thing, I wouldn't go so far as to call it cheating... I guess I just trust my husband to know whats ok and whats not.
2007-02-21 17:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by Momma 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't see the problem with it. When there is no touching. The lines have to be clearly drawn on this subject before committing to each other. What may be okay for one person may not be acceptable for another. I have absolutely no problem with my wife going to a "naked man show" Because I know she Will always come home to me. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2007-02-21 17:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by CJ5fan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't consider looking to be cheating besides I've been to strip joints myself. Committment doesn't mean a man/woman is dead.
2007-02-21 18:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Strip clubs are demeaning and degrading to women. They turn our bodies into commodities. I understand why men like them, but I expect my man to respect me and all women enough to pass them by. If he chooses to value the excitement of looking at another woman's body over his relationship with me, then he is certainly free to do so. Just not if he wants to stay married to me.
2007-02-21 17:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by Abigail 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've been to strip clubs with my hubby so I'm fine with it as long as I'm with him. At least I know nothing is happening that I will not like. But if he goes there without me knowing or with a different crowd, then I will cut his **** when he gets home.
2007-02-21 19:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋