how can i sto-p getting in troble?

Question

i talk back get sent to the office many times and hardly do my work how can i stop

im in grade 7

Answer 1

The self image of yourself is one of a "rebel" or a "clown". By talking back you are demonstrating that you have a lack of self control brought about by low self esteem. The only true way to change your behavior is to change the way that you look at yourself and the way you look at your actions. Most children, well to be fair, almost all people will cheer on a person that is taking a risk or playing the fool but it isn't because they idolize you, rather it's because they want to see somebody get into trouble or "play a fool" as this takes attention from themselves and lets them live vicariously through you.
If you enjoy being the clown or being used by your classmates then continue with your juvenile behavior, if you want to actually be smart rather than just have a smart mouth (which actually demonstrates ignorance) then shut up, learn you lessons and become a leader of men and women through respect. It's up to you, not your mommy or daddy or "counselor" at school. Being good doesn't mean to "kiss ***", it just means that you are using your teachers and mentors to actually become smart rather than just playing the fool.

Hope this helps, I had the same problem over 40 years ago. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Set aside some time, and think about this problem. It';s easy to tell you to just change, or to stop talking back, but you will find it very hard to change until you figure out WHY you are acting this way. Here's what I suggest:

First, get out a sheet of paper, and think about the last time you talked back. Write down what happened in detail.

Second, write down what CAUSED you to talk back. Be honest. Think about who was in the room, what the teacher said that resulted in you talking back. How you were feeling. What you were studying. Write it all down.

Third, look at the causes, and think about which one or two contributed to you talking back. Circle them (these are your triggers).

Fourth, make a list of ways you can eliminate or deal with your triggers. Let's say a trigger is that you were in a bad mood. You can eliminate that by making an effort to leave your anger at the classroom door. Sometimes you can't eliminate a trigger. For example, if your friend sits next to you and he always laughs when you talk back. You can't really change classes, but you can ask discreetly to be moved to a seat away from him. You can also remind yourself that your friend will like you even if you aren't funny in class. . .and you can always joke around later. You get the idea.

Fifth, come up with a good reaction for the next time you're tempted to talk back. For example, you can count to 20, write the comment down, or call up an image (if you talk back because your teacher is rude, you can imagine them as a giant squiggly worm. . .put all your imagination into the details, and by the time you're done, the moment will have passed).

Answer 3

Think about what you really want to happen, before you talk back. By asking this question, I assume you really don't want to get in trouble. Remember that you have the control. People will react to what you do. By changing how you act, you will change how they act. It may seem like teachers want to control you, but as a teacher I just want my kids to do what is best for them. I tell my kids that I can't make them do anything, I can just help them make the choices that are best for them. Good Luck! It's a really good step forward that you even asked this question.

Answer 4

I'm a teacher and good at teaching my kids to get out of trouble by setting up a reward.. for example, if they do a piece of work without talking too much, they get a point and when they have collected five points, they get extra play. You could ask your teacher for help or set up your own little reward system with yourself... if you meet your own target, have a treat :o) It's never too late to learn positive behaviour... good luck :o)

Answer 5

1. Concentrate on following the school's rules
2. Be careful what you do or say
3. Always use caution
4. Be careful who you say to anyone and what you say to them.
5. Open your mind to learning. It's an on going thing, but it only happens, when one is mentally open to it.

Answer 6

Do what your spost to be doing, like getting an education and learning how to spell and use spell check. Knock off the crap and straighten your act up. Otherwise your going to have a long miserable life. Set goals and accomplish them.

Answer 7

Um simply stop? Perhaps go to your guidence counselor and ask this same question. Maybe he/she can help you. Muster up some "will" power, and really buckle down and focus on your work, and your friends, and don't stray away from good things. I hope this helps. =)

Answer 8

use tape to shut your mouth! *just joking dont take it seriously!* think about the consequences BEFORE you talk back... i am like in 7th grade too and the teachers can get really hard on the students... just always remind yourself (use sticky notes they always help me =P ) and try to keep focus...

Answer 9

change yourself ... look at what your doing wrong and fix it....if you talk back learn to keep your mouth shut then you wont get in trouble....concenterate on what your doing and youll get your work done....if you feel its uncontrollable maybe you have add or adhd????