my new boyfriend is doubting that i am gay and that i love him only.what the hell can i do to make him see that i dont want anyone else but him?
2007-02-21 09:06:25 · 17 answers · asked by south_parker98 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
screw him.i love him.if he loved me he would not force me to change.
2007-02-21 12:19:24 · update #1
time and patience. just keep on being there and he'll figure it out
2007-02-21 09:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by crazybubbleblower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From personal sight, He might of had a bad past. If you don't know much about his past then ask him if something happen. See some of us don't trust people becoase either we've never knew what love was or that someone we thought that they love us { and I don't just mean a boyfriend I mean that Your father could left or your mother beats or something or your friend stap you in the back} and we're acualy using us or stab you in the back. If you really love then PLEASE DON 'T LEAVE HIM. THESE PEOPLE THAT SAY LEAVE DON'T. YOU MIGHT BE DOING THE SAME THING THAT SOMEONE ELSE DID TO HIM. He could be confused and he could be thinking that " Oh he couldn't love me no could" or something like that. Just help him be patient. If he see's that your not leaving and that your seriese than he 'll see that your love is true. JUST BE PATIENT. cause if you leave him then you might regrete not giving him some time. Cause I know how it feels when you think the person loves and then they bretray you then it hurts and it takes a long time to really trust people.and some of us never trust again . so help him with is trusting problem cause trust me you dont' want him becomeing like me. GOOD LUCK!!!! ^-^
2007-02-22 11:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by shadowdemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your other question. You said you were into drugs and booze. From experience of being the bf of the person on drugs, I was scared, I did not know if it was him or the drugs talking. I also had difficulty trusting him, in what did he get up to when he was trashed? Who did he sleep with? Did he sleep with anyone? Did anyone try it on with him? You see I am extremely jealous and this bugged me. But I now know he is extremely jealous and protective of me. He is so committed to me and our relationship it does not matter what stat he is in. Now this I only found out over time. Actions speak louder than words. Show him you are always thinking of him. Show him that you appreciate him. Small thing like that can make all the difference. And above all, try and relax, work on your anger, that is one thing that still gets me, even now, and that is I can feel my bf's anger and frustration and it makes me very uncomfortable. Maybe he is the same as me. But one thing I can say, is once we got over all of this things have never been better. I love him and he loves me more than life itself.
Good luck.
In light and love
Namatse'
2007-02-21 23:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by Oracle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a 'long heart-to-heart' talk about BOTH of your feelings ... he's probably been 'cheated on' before by someone who is 'bi' and did it with a 'girl' and now he's 'scared' he'll get the same treatment from you ... and only a good talk can 'help that' ... even if that means that you have to have that 'good talk' once a day for a month, eventually he'll realize that you do love ONLY him.
2007-02-21 09:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like an insecure person, who has possibly been hurt in the past. You can only re-assure him and gradually he will come to realise that you are serious, but this will take patience on your part....
2007-02-21 09:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just treat him as you would any other boyfriend...his "doubting" may just be him trying to get more and more of your attention. it isn't your job to spend all your time fixing his insecurities...if you treat him well, and he still doubts you, move on. it isn't fair to you that you think you're doing all you can but he doesn't. maybe he's asking for too much.
2007-02-21 09:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sofia Aleka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have to keep reassuring him as though he is some dog or something.....in a relationship you daily let each know how you feel, whether its by saying it or by doing something to show it....just keep on loving him and he will need to work it out for himself
2007-02-21 09:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by Huh? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make someone understand something. You jsut have to have patience and continue to love him.
2007-02-21 09:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep reassuring him - he may have had a bad relationship in the past
2007-02-21 09:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all STOP getting so angry. Fear leads to anger-anger leads to hate-hate leads to destruction. Think about it and for gods sakes talk to him, he is probably feeling just as confused and scared that he might loose you.
2007-02-25 03:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Queen Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him - if he doesn't believe you, then he just wasted an opportunity that comes rarely in a person's life.
2007-02-21 09:09:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋