i hve 13yr dau. w/her own email am concerned w/the sites shes visiting, how do i access her email?

Question

13 yr old daughter who has email w/yahoo. would like to access her email w/o her knowing. Very concerned she is visiting prohibited areas such as myspace.com etc.etc. She has been lying to me recently about a lot of things.

Answer 1

By all means invade her privacy, especially if it means securing her safety! Usually teens become dishonest when they are doing things they know their parents wouldn't approve of. The internet is far too convenient a medium for today's sexual predators to prey on naive young girls. I myself was quite the hellion as a teenage girl and I only wish my Mother would have delved deeper into my private, out of control, confusing young life. It's better she deal with your influences then that of the outside world. It will naturally be unwelcome and she will resist because, of course, at that age we know everything, Mom! I think approach is what you should focus on. Remember that she is at an age where she is testing her independence and if you can come off to her gently and maturely, as a loving mother/friend who's only sharing her best interest, I think you'll find her to be receptive. Yes, I know she's a child but treating her like one will only push her further away. If that doesn't work, no holds barred, get tough and do what you got to do to protect your baby. She won't begrudge you forever and may one day even thank you.

As mentioned in other answers, if you do go the keylogger route, It's a very simple program such as http://www.actualkeylogger.com/ that can be installed on her computer and runs secretly in the background recording her every key stroke saving it to a text file for you to read later. Unfortunately, if she finds out that you've installed one it can give her the impression that dishonesty is OK. As a last resort I would instead just demand she show you her inbox or lose her privileges on the computer. If she's got nothing to hide then she shouldn't freak out too much. Also if she willingly cooperates you should explain to her that it would greatly contribute to gaining your trust and cut her some slack. Possibly even give her a gesture of apology
and explain to her that you are only behaving out of love and concern.


Best wishes and good luck!

Answer 2

I understand your concern as a mom myself, but if you violate her trust she will continue to lie to you. You need to find a way for her to trust you enough to open up or only let her use her email on a computer that is not in her room (if that is where it is) kids this age should only use a shared computer in a place where it is not private so they will not feel tempted to go to the places that you have forbidden. Good luck

Answer 3

i agree with blunt about a keylogger program....i would start though by talking with her and setting boundaries...set parental controls on computer to some password she can't break so she can't get into adult related...also i would set time limits on her internet time...at 13 she should be having homework and chores to do plus a set bed time...i raise my children with bible standards....a verse comes to mind.....your the parent...you lead she follows...Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Answer 4

There's a hacker code;
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Answer 5

There is no easy answer, but think before you invade her privacy. You may not think she is entitled to privacy, but SHE DOES. And once you break her trust, the lies will become easier for her to tell because she will care less and less about violating your trust. Please consider sitting down with her and CALMLY explaining to her why you don't want her on certain sites.

Answer 6

Install a keylogger in the computer so you can access her accounts.
It's your resposability to keep your child safe.

You go mom!

Good luck

Answer 7

as a parent, we are here to guide our children to make the right choices. if you have talk to her about the consequences of things, then tell her that you trust her to do the right thing.