My husband and I have been married for 6 months and I feel competely invisible. He plays Video games all night and I miss him. we used to be so good together what do I do?
2007-02-21 08:52:03 · 18 answers · asked by Mrs. Priss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um, I can't see you.
Just kidding.
Sweetie, there are a couple of things to get his attention that I can't really go into detail here. Figure out how to "curl his toes" so to speak and you'll never be invisible to him again.
If that doesn't work insist on couples counseling and try to communicate why he isn't interested anymore.
2007-02-21 08:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In six months you haven't had enough time to really get to know each other. It appears he is distracted from "marriage" and needs to be reminded he doesn't live alone. If you push him into being more active in marriage he may rebel and go his own way. If you take on other activities you may lose interest in him. Either choice would not help the situation. Try to talk to him about it if you haven't already. If you have, then counseling might help. Has something happened that might have caused his behavior? Was there an argument or unresolved dispute? That me be why he is acting that way. He hasn't lost his interest, it's too soon for that. But there's an issue that he doesn't know how to deal with so it's up to you to find out what it is and get past it.
2007-02-21 17:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by normansbro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 6 months. That is WAY to soon to feel like that. How long have you two been together? If you have been together a few years I will say try getting back to what got you together to begin with. Going back to the basics works well. You know the flirting and playing. If you haven't been together long say less than 2 years you need help. I would suggest counseling. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2007-02-21 17:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by CJ5fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him and see what is going on. Tell him that you should be more important than the video games that he plays, Tell him that you miss him and that you would like him to spend some time with you try setting up a date night or something like that because things can't be going down hill already it has only been 6 months since you said I DO
Good Luck
2007-02-21 16:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've been the one playing video games before. And my wife would get upset. So I stopped playing the games for a while. Then I was reminded why I was playing them. Any time I'd want to do something with her she'd be watching television or reading romance novels. She only wanted me to be available when she was bored. So I went back to playing video games.
The point being.. if he's more interested in playing games without you it's probably because you don't let him play games with you.
2007-02-21 17:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get interested in the video games or buy one that you like and play. Maybe he will get the same feeling. Or, just tell him. You are newly weds. You guys should be enjoying being together all the time.
If you are lacking in the bedroom...make the gaming a little interesting.
2007-02-21 16:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by sherrie.carter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter explaining your feelings. It's an easier way for someone to listen to what you have to say. If you continue to have problems with communication, I would recommend couples counseling. I know this may sound a little extreme, but most people have the wrong idea about couples counseling. It's not just for people going through harsher times. It's a great way for couples to learn how to communicate to each other. I would even recommend it for people who are getting married.
2007-02-21 16:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by kingIII 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't beat him...join him. Ask him to play a multiplayer game with you and kick the crap out of him in it. Play when he isn't around and get really good. Then you can knock him down a few notches. That's what I did to my boyfriend. I am the master at any fighting game now.
2007-02-21 16:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by trying to play video games with. Get interested in what he is doing.
2007-02-21 16:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by JM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he play video games all the tI'me when you got together?Well join him or sit with im and talk about things the less you complain the more he might notice you..
2007-02-21 16:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by roncj88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋