What similar qualities black people have?? I am not a racist,I am married to a black man but our relationship has changed so bad ,he became a very selfish ,cold and mean person.I spoke with few of my friends who dated black people and they told me the same bad things about them!!
2007-02-21 08:39:18 · 30 answers · asked by Gucci 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
No no no no no. There are good and bad people of every race and culture. If your man went bad - and others had the same experience - that's just a few different black men - who went bad - who happened to be involved with people who know each other.
Usually - nobody BECOMES a selfish, cold, mean person. I think he was that way when you met him - but you just didn't see it.
I've dated all colors. Some are fabulous - others are jerks. It has nothing to do with race.
2007-02-21 08:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think similarities you might see are necessarily cultural, especially if they all grew up in America where there are so many smaller cultural niches. I've dated a selfish black man and I've dated two very sweet black men that I could never imagine turning selfish. I think part of it might just be the general things that happen to couples, they get used to each other and don't try so hard to please the other person. I'm going through a similar situation with a long-term boyfriend (who is white, btw).
2007-02-21 16:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lowa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a huge stereotype that Black people are mean, selfish, rude, ignorant, and I used to think that because I grew up in a Urban neighborhood most of my life where the majority are Black, but then again, there are people like that everywhere of any race, you'd probably be surprised. I've been to White, Hispanic neighborhoods where people were no different. Anyone can be rude and anyone can be nice.
Krazy Libra
2007-02-21 16:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel that you are unfairly stereotyping a group of people based upon the bias of a select few.
Blacks have been murdered by white men. Are all white men capable of that type of behavior? Does that make all white people immoral?
I think not.
I will be so d^*n glad when this country gets over skin color. It is enbarrassing to contemplate that "we the people" have come no further than this drivel at this stage of our development as a nation.
I have spoken to people of other nationalities other than American, they do not have this stupidity and/or divisiveness in their national conversations.
We have so much work to do in this nation, let's move forward. Please!
Selfish is he? Ever think it could be because he married someone who is willing to stereotype his behavior based on his color? That must be a royal pain in his ____ to have you sitting there on a chair asking him stupid questions like the one you asked here.
I think he should find someone less judegemental than you are, at that point, his selfishness would probably melt away. And the disappearance thereof would only be a mystery to you and your friends. Read it and weep...
2007-02-21 16:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The black people that I have ran into that are uneducated and have a very large chip on their shoulder are extremely annoying and I try to avoid them whenever possible. The black people that I have ran into that are educated and believe that you have to work for a living and provide for a family for the betterment of the community as a whole are my friends. And guess what...it pertains to white folk too. My uneducated white neighbors who yell and scream at eachother all the time and leave trash everywhere are extremely annoying and I avoid them whenever possible. My educated white friends who love their families and provide for them and care for the community are my friends. Its all about classism and education. Not racism. Thats what separates people in general and its been that way. And the big one is that people change. Sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad. Sounds like your man has changed for the bad. I wonder what kind of friends he has and what his ideologies are. Relationships like yours, if not brought up in similar environments, turn into a culture clash in which no one wins. Ask him what he thinks about white peolpe and you will get an idea of how he truly feels about you.
2007-02-21 16:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Goober W 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just because your man is mean, doesn't mean all Black people are. Everybody is not the SAME! I know some mean, selfish, and cold white people. I'm sure you're a fallen angel from heaven.
2007-02-21 16:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by ericaofgordon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The race hasn't as much to do with it as the person. The simularities have more to do,
I believe, with the enviroment people are raised
in. The black, people in my neighborhood are
liars, cheats, thieves, and violent. But if you look
some more, so are the hispanic, whites, mixed,
etc. Sounds like you may need to re-think your marriage. You don't need to stay in an abusive situation regardless of the color. Try to talk to him and get some professional help.
2007-02-21 16:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by redman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what you are wanting to hear is that all or most black men are selfish, cold and mean?
Well you aren't going to hear it from me.
Similar qualities that black people have is that they are black and that they are constantly at the center of ridiculous questions like this one. If you ask your boyfriend questions like these, it would stand to reason that he became cold.
My husband is a big whitey, just like me, and he can be an *** just like anyone else.
2007-02-21 16:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I hate to break it to you, but even though you're married to a black man, you're still a racist if you think him becoming a selfish bastard has anything to do with his race.
My mother has been married to my father, a black man, for 30 years this April, so no, all black man, black people, whatever, are not cold, selfish or mean.
2007-02-21 16:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by SweetMahogany 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
i'm sorry, but i think you are generalizing, even though you may not think you are...
when you say 'what do you think about black ppl'...i would say I like SOME black ppl, i don't like SOME black ppl, i like SOME white ppl, i don't like SOME white ppl, i like SOME chicanos, i don't like SOME chicanos. yes, i do think there are similarities in every culture. but your question has nothing to do with similarities in culture...
I think you really should look at your relationship and not judge any other black man according to how you are being treated by your man...maybe HE JUST ISN'T THAT INTO YOU, think about it
2007-02-21 17:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋