Is she cheating or what?

Question

I've had suspicions for a while about my girl cheating.. after confronting her many times, she isn't going to admit it.. she swore up and down that she didn't, but not on her kid's life.. i know it's wrong to swear on your kids life but she normally does it, this time she tells me she isn't because thats wrong.. She was hiding emails, calls, and messages from me to get help from this guy to get on a police department. She tells me her friend cheated on her b/f as well, and that her friend isn't going to tell him because she loves him and it was a mistake and she loves him. Is this a sign too?

Anyway, the first question, do you think she's cheating?

Second, I think she's fixing to tell her best friend through email and Im going to catch it. Once I have proof, what do I do next?

I know how big trust is.. she's done this before and I kept the trust going. I WANT to trust her but sometimes I think I can't due to everything not adding up sometimes

Answer 1

Yes, that sounds like she's cheating. I'd break it off.

Answer 2

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I'm going to attempt to answer your question, it really doesn't matter if people on here or even you "think" she's cheating. What's important is that you find out for sure whether or not she IS cheating. Yes, confrontation and accusations without proof will never do any good. It's like trying to get an alcoholic to turn to sobriety while they're drunk. You may as well bang your head against the wall.

Gather the proof. Then only you can decide what you want to do after you have the proof. I mean, yes, you confront her after that, but then what? Do you break up with her, will she give you a tearful apology and promise not to do it again, could you trust her again? I highly suggest you check out all the free information at my site. I'd even take it a step further and check out this page on my site:http://www.cheatingcatcher.com/How_to_Catch_a_Cheating_Spouse.html

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Answer 3

umm, from what you wrote i can't really determine if she is but it looks as though she is hiding something if she's hiding her emails and calls. when you said that she has done it before are you implying that she cheated on you before? whatever happened in the past between you and her you had lost some trust in her, you say you kept the trust going but obviously you didn't cause when that bond was broken it had you second guessing. now your on guard cause your not really believing her words. once you get that proof.. the best thing to do is leave her its going to hurt cause you have feelings for her but, if you stay with her its going to drive you insane cause you will NEVER be able to trust her, your always going to wonder her whereabouts. bro, you sound like a smart dude and i think you know what to do.. something is up and your gut feeling is telling you something is not right.. stop asking questions cause your not getting any answers from her.. your just going to have to seek the answers for yourself. good luck man and i hope the outcome is that she is not cheating. take it easy, bye.

Answer 4

Hello.

If my boyfriend asked me to show him my phone messages or emails, I would have no problem to show because I have absolutely nothing to hide from him. I would not want to show him my email account or my phone if I was hiding messages from a guy. So it looks like she might be cheating and she does not want to tell you. The fact that she gave you an example of her friend seems to be her way of telling you : Yes I cheated and I feel bad about it but I don't want hurt you or our relationship so I would rather not tell you. Normally there is no need to swear so much if we have not cheated. I am sorry to tell you but it sounds like she is definitely hiding something.

Answer 5

i went through this problem with my wife very recently she was hiding her phone calls sneaking out behind my back to talk to some guy she met over the internet...now i have always allowed my wife to have any friend she chooses so there was no reason to hide things form me unless she was doing something that i would disapprove of. when asked to see her cell phone she out right refused to let me look in her call history...helll she even slept with her cell phone on her keeping it on vibrate and shutting the ringer off so i wouldnt ask questions. i wanted to beleive so bad that i could trust my wife but the truth always comes out in the end remember if it looks like a turd and smells like a turd its probaly a turd no matter how much sugar you put on it. my advice to you is stand up and be a man and let her know the bullshit sneaky secrets stop now. and im sorry to say if she has the slightest bit of computer literacy you will never find an e mail she doesnt want you to. keep in mind if she uses a cell phone the bill will come in the mail with all the numbers dialed and recieved. patience my friend. she will end up hanging herself with this ****.

Answer 6

Sounds like a bad situation, If you have a gut feeling, then i would trust that. Your instincts will always lead you to the right direction. Can you see yourself without her? if you can then its time to move on. if you cant, try to get some counseling. and exhaust all avenues before making a final choice, that way you will know you are making the right choice. I'm sorry she cheated on you. I wish you all the luck and happiness.

Answer 7

Trust is very important, without it you can't have a lasting relationship. I don't even know your gal and I don't trust her one little bit. She is cheating and dragging her best friend into her web of lies. What kind of person does this to two people she supposedly loves ( or should love)???? Don't even look for proof just tell her GOODBYE....

Answer 8

If you don't trust her, it doesn't matter whether she is really cheating or not. If the trust isn't there, the relationship isn't there. You seem determined to believe she is cheating. It sounds like it's time to get out of the relationship.

Answer 9

If she is hiding emails, calls and messages from you, then who cares if the is having sex with another man, she is being dishonest with you, and you have no reason to trust her. Demand that she immediately open up her cell phone records, her email password and anything else she hids. If she is not willing to be completely open and honest with you, then dump her. It really is that simple.

Answer 10

It appears you are a little paranoid and freaked out life is to short to be living a drama like this trust is huge so if you can't trust her anymore maybe it's time to end it.

Answer 11

I have gone on gut instinct beforee and its usually right, you sound like you know the way her and her friends minds works so Id say she is cheating, listen you can either let your self live with it (which is what I done) or you can end it with her befor she does, sucks innit!