My sex life is getting boring and monotonous and routine. Kids go to bed at 830 and by 9 we're 'busy'. I might as well put it in my palm pilot as scheduled things to do today. We try to spice it up. Different positions etc. Different places are hard to do with kids in the house, and its cold outside. Its starting to feel 'robotic'. I have very little inhibitions, but my husband is not into toys etc. I have even suggested going to a swingers club, NOT to swap, cuz we are not into sharing, but something way different and exciting, and he looked at me like I had 3 heads! How do you spice it up when you and your husband are not on the same adventure page? I'm game for just about anything, how do I convince him to at least try it? I wanna do something hot and sexy and to knock his socks off!
2007-02-21 08:30:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think sexy lingerie is a big plus. Buy some sexy lingerie....start out elegeant - and then a couple of nights, really turn up the heat (leather might even be a good idea!). All of the lingerie should be short, skimpy, and feminine. It always seems to do the trick.
2007-02-25 08:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by L.A. Scene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question.
My wife and I went to a swingers club once. Not to have sex with others. We had a really good time. It was just like a place with a lot of dancing and a little more of a sexual charge in the air. Some can be a lot more out there, though, so YMMV.
I would start talking about stuff that's just a little outside his comfort zone first, you don't wanna go try to hit a homer your first time out. As he get's used to stuff a little different, then push the limit a little more. The key is to get him used to talking about stuff that's a little more alternative than you do now, but to do it very slowly so he doesn't have some immediate knee-jerk reaction (like thinking you've grown two more heads). Once the concepts are a little more normal to him, he may be more up for trying them.
2007-02-21 08:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can, get the kids out of the house for a day or two and have sex in every room but your bedroom. Do it in the shower, on the kitchen sink, everywhere. Raise the bar to consider anal, oral, vaginal, and multiple o's. Check out Tantric sex which is intense and real connective between 2 people. If you have a fireplace, do it front of a flaming hearth. Add 30-minute good-night kisses to regular nights and make sex into marathons. Claim that you are from another planet where the women are horny 24/7 and that you want your spouse to be your sex slave. As you raise the bar, take your husband with you.
2007-02-21 09:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could go on and on about how to go about this, but the best information I know about this has already been written. Here it is, copied and pasted:
"How do I convince my partner to swing?
This is probably one of the most common questions we see on the message board. Basically, you DON'T CONVINCE your partner to swing. Swinging is not for everyone, and it might not be for you and your partner. Before you think about trying to convince your partner to swing you should first look at yourself and examine the reasons you wish to swing. Are you wanting to swing so that you can "get more action", if so, then don't bother. This is not the lifestyle for you. If, however, you want to swing because you want to help your partner live out fantasies while living out your own, or because you want to share the most special part of your life (your partner) with others, then you can start looking at how to talk to your partner about swinging. You may not even need to convince your partner. They may already be more than willing, all you have to do is let them know that you are. On the other hand, they may not have ever thought about it. Communication is the key to opening all of the doors here. The first thing you need to do is talk to them about your fantasies, perhaps leave a swinger mag lying around for them to find to stimulate a conversation, or have them look through Swingers Board with you. Be open to any questions that they may bring up and be prepared to answer why you want to do this. If your partner lets you know that they have no interest in the lifestyle, then back off. Pushing them will get you nowhere. However, you can mention your fantasies to them, if you can get your partner turned on to your fantasies then you will have a much better chance of opening the lines of communication again and the chances of taking things further will increase."
From http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/faq.php?faq=swinger_faq
2007-02-21 14:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Massage oils and tingling lubricants
Role playing
Play dress up. They are fun costumes outthere
Send the kids to the babysitter abd have your way with your husband everywhere
Do it in the car, even if is just in the garage.
Blind fold him
Play with food
Do strip tease
Go for a B&B romantic getaway
get a hold of a cosmopolitan magazine or visit their website, They have tons of fun s ex tips. It's on of the best resources out there.
Good luck
2007-02-21 09:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a Kama Sutra book for the both of you. How about some tasteful adult videos? It's hard with kids, but possible to be creative and adventurous. Have a date night if possible once a month or more. Go down on him while he's driving. It takes work to get a marriage out of the usual stagnant things. Verbalize your thoughts with your husband and get his feelings, fantasies, etc. about sex. You might be surprised!
2007-02-21 08:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by rotorhead911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress upp in something sexy and do a little striptease for him. Let him watch while you masturbate. Touch yourself all over and tell him how much you wish his hands were all over you right now but make sure they aren't though by tying him up first.
Your guy will be one lucky man!
2007-02-22 02:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Monty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, what haven't you done is the question. I have read some of your Q and A's and you both have already cheated on each other. Seems like the next logical step is swinging.
2007-02-22 17:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have routine.Break it, hold off for a time,then make him beg for what you got.Use lotions to give him a massage with every thing working,and make him wait.Satisfaction guaranteed.
2007-02-21 09:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch some porn together over a few drinks...
How about inviting a girlfriend over for a 3some ?
2007-02-21 08:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋