2007-02-21 08:19:53 · 16 answers · asked by lilgurl2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because you are not married doesn't mean your bf/gf won't have an affair. They say 60% of men cheat and 40% of women. I suspect that many people are not naturally monogamous. With society giving you only two choices, monogamy or cheating, some cheat. Open relationships, even though they are more honest, are generally more frowned upon than cheating.
A type of non-monogamy known as polyamory is something my wife and I do. We have other long term love interests as well as each other. Some are sexual, some are not. Love is the primary motivator, not sex.
We've been together for 31 years.
2007-02-21 08:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that there are a lot of people out there who do not cherish marriage as they should. When you find the right person though, your respect, adoration adn love for that person will keep you from ever even entertaining an affair as a possibility. I have been married almost 10 years to my best friend. We have had a few shakey times, but we care about each other and we work it out. We share the opinion that an affair would do nothing for us, and that is what is most important in life... US. Not everyone cheats, a lot of people do, but there are so many people that treasure what they have.
2007-02-21 16:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our society's thinking has changed so much over the last 50 years. People used to get a job and stick with it till they retire. Now the average person changes careers 3 or 4 times. Thats careers, not jobs. People used to buy a car and drive it till it died. Now people buy a new car every 2 years. There are so many new drugs on the market to cure every ailment.
Our generation is the "Instant Gratification" generation. If you aren't happy all the time, your life sucks.
If you can overcome this way of thought and realize that you have to take the good times with the bad, you can make a marriage work in this day and age.
2007-02-21 16:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Robert San 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry for the right reasons it can work out great. A marriage is hard, especially the first few years. You are getting to know EVERYTHING about each other. You learn to accept the things you can't and shouldn't change each other. The key things to keeping a marriage going strong are being honest with each other, showing each other the same respect you want back, LOTS of sex, and never going to bed angry.
2007-02-21 16:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by catmomiam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is reasonable as long as you go into without any doubts at all about the person you are marrying. Then once you are in a marriage you have to be realistic and know that it takes teamwork, respect and lots of hard work for it to last.
2007-02-21 23:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is no longer sacred to many people.......
But then again, when you get married you see things in a different way...
I'm not having an affair..........and I don't want to....
As long as my husband acknowledges me, I won't feel the need to have one...
2007-02-21 16:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some marrigae works. For others it doesn't. Sometimes men stay with a woman for fear of losing so much financially if they divorce. Or the fact that they are afraid of being alone. I mean if it doesn't work than don't be discouraged because for many it just doesn't work. But remember people marry for different reasons: 1. for love'
2. financial convenience
3. dual citizenship
so get what you want out of it.
2007-02-21 16:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by workaholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a awesome thing if it is right..I got lucky and married the girl of my dreams...and I would never cheat on her...A lot of people rush in to marriage these days and that why it does not work..
There are millions of happy married couples out there.Just don't marry any one..marry the one you can't live with out..
2007-02-21 16:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage or a committed relationship is good, with the right person that is. with the wrong people it doesn't work out. that is why it is really a good thing to know well who u are marrying, their past, how they handle disappointment and stress, what is in their past. marriage is great, with the right person who knows their boundaries, who has morals.
2007-02-21 16:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't the institution of marriage that is the problem. It the participants. Marriage is still reasonable among reasonable people.
2007-02-21 16:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by JB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋