sex before marriage?

Question

Why is everybody so against sex before marriage..I think sex before marriage is ok as long as your in a long term relationship with someone your truly in love with and know your gonna marry.

Well i have been happily married 16 yrs but me and hubby did have sex before marriage..I just dont see anything wrong with sex before marriage if ur in a long term relationship but i think its wrong for someone to jump from bed to bed.

Answer 1

I totally agree with you!

Answer 2

The fact is, you're never in a "long term realtionship" unless one or both of these conditions applies: 1) You're currently IN a long term relationship rather than just saying that you are (and have been dating for only 6 months) and 2) You're married.

Now as far as sex before marriage goes, it's a steroid. Plain and simple. Sex is very good at covering up a lot of underlying issues that will surface eventually and when that time comes, sex isn't enough to keep the relationship together. Sex makes relationships seem a lot better than they really are. Why? Because sex is great! Especially in the beginning. Everything is new and exciting. But like steroids you'll eventually have to "lift the weight" with them. When that time comes it will be near impossible because you've almost always used them. Don't get me wrong, sex is awesome. Anyone who dies a virgin has my pity. But the fact remains that the only way to really know if you love someone, not just care about them, or have feelings for them, I mean REALLY LOVE someone, is to abstain from sex and see how the relationship goes. And if a relationship is bad withOUT the sex, it would probably be worse with it when the you know what hits the fan.

Answer 3

Marriage was created by God, and sex was supposed to be only within the institution of marriage. Why are people against it? This is why we have broken families, single parents, kids growing up without a Mom and Dad. People have sex, someone gets pregnant, and the father leaves or the couple splits up. All studies show that kids do better with a mother and father, not two moms or two dads, or one parent (though I understand that is unavoidable at times). Couples who live together before they get married have higher rates of divorce, because they don't take the commitment as seriously. Generally, people who have premarital sex are risking higher rates of STD's. Find me one monogamous couple who were virgins until they got married that has an STD - you won't find one.

Answer 4

Sex before marriage is overrated. Jumping from bed to bed until you find that special someone doesn't sound all that great to me. You might never find that person. Whats the point. You sleep w/ various people until you get tired of doing so and then you have nothing to show for it but alot of wasted time, hurt and bitter feelings toward past sex partners, and possibly an STD. Just my opinion, some people need to do themselves a favor and wait.

Answer 5

The problem is alot of people get married really young, too young, and for them to have sex before marriage means they are having sex at like 16 which is probably too young for most people. I also believe in anything before marriage which will help you know the person you are committing your life to better.

Answer 6

Absolutely. Funny story about that question. My ex-husband fell for the whole we can't have sex until we are married thing with his now wife. He married her after 6 weeks. He had no idea what he was marrying until now. His wife is 31 years old and requires botox to feel good about herself. There is never, ever at any time supposed to be junk food of any sort in the house, oh and that includes 2% milk. She is so insecure in herself that she can't stand to stay home and requires money to be spent, if she wants to go somewhere they drop the kids off, (yes she has one too) and go. She throws a huge fit it she doesn't get her way. My guess, is he wouldn't have married her had he known she was going to be that way.
Sex before marriage

Answer 7

I once thought about it, too. But at the end, all what matters to me is that we both love eachother. If we have a long-term relationship, with a serious committment, faithfulness, honesty, and all what builds a relationship, we can give it a try. Both must love eachother because for me sex is something special. I want to give it to the one I fell in love with. I know I'm a guy and think that it doesn't matter for us. But to me it does. No need to wait 'till marriage. But if that's what you believe in, fine. I respect your opinion. And so will your boyfriend. Peace!

Answer 8

Not everyone is against sex before marriage it really depends on what you believe.Unfortunately we're in a society where almost any and everything is related to sex, but if you are serious about waiting until marriage I'd say don't let those who aren't get u so up tight.Its your decision and no one should tell you differently.

Answer 9

What country do u live? No one is againts sex before marriage in the United States. There was a survey done and 70% of woman had sex before marriage in the 40's and now it's like 85%, it is probably 99% for the guys. if you live in IRAN than I can see your point. I would not put any woman's life in peril if I lived in one of those backward azz countires if I was you. You know in some of these places they still stone women to death.

Answer 10

If you know your going to marry him then why not wait until you are married to him. Sex is supposed to be something that is sacred and special to be shared between a man and a woman who have commited their lives to each other before the eyes of God and man.

Answer 11

I just feel like sex is the most intimate and personal part of yourself that you can give someone, and I wouldn't want to give that part of me to someone until they have committed themselves to me and myself to them. That's the reason for me.