Me and my wife have been married for 2 yrs now. I love her but I don't believe that she really loves me. She always runs to her mother like a child when ever we a have an issue about anything. Whenever she sees convenience she runs to it,forget me. She is quick to talk to her mom and sister but never to me unless its about a bill being due or something to whine about. She doesn't want to work, jsut sit at home and clean all day and talk on the phone. I clean to and work and help with our child. I don't need a maid I need a wife. She tris to keep my child from me with no cause like she is a tool to use to twist me. I recently got into a legal problem at my job using a gas card to help our finances cause she refuses to work and when I told her I could possibly go to jail, she patted me on the shoulder and said" Ima pray for you". that was it so I left her, again. I left her before and took Her back, cause she turned her back on me before(a long story) People should I take her back?Again?
2007-02-21 07:55:07 · 14 answers · asked by amalio357 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife is supposed to be your partner. You're supposed to solve problems together and help each other out. It's obvious this is not what is happening in this marriage. You have to think about it from the point of view that if you met this person today knowing she treated another guy the way you described would you marry her. Only you can answer this question but I hope the answer is no.
The down side to all of this is that you have a child together. It's still not a reason to stay in the marriage. I've said this before but besides love you need to have two things to make a marriage work; trust and respect. Frankly I don't see any of these qualities in this relationship. You should see a therapist on your own to help you decide what direction you want to go. My best advice is don't make important decisions based on emotion. You will live to regret it. Lastly, stay in as close contact with your child as possible. Go to court if necessary and get at least equal time. Your child is as much yours as anyone elses. Children of a very young age form and lose attachments quickly. Please don't let this happen.
2007-02-21 08:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by IveBeenThere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you, like there's a saying, get your answer only with your pillow, in other words, think and analyze things before jumping in conclusion, I can suggest to go to a marriage counseling, you two are just in a still in a early marriage stage, and sometimes for some couple's it takes time . Woman's go to they mothers for that special support as well some men do lets be honest. So the best thing to do is sit down with her, and talk with open heart and honesty, because its not you two only in this family there's a child involve and you dont want to jump quick in a resolucion, so then try to get a marriage counseling and go both of you, with out a 3 person, if this dont work then only you have the last word in what you want to do, just sit, analise, and decide. For the best of the family.
2007-02-21 16:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by novastarlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife sounds to be very immature and is in a pattern of running home to mommy whenever a problem arises. Unless she somehow by some miracle grows up, I would see no good reason to take her back. She does not even have the maturity to see what trouble her marriage with you is in. To her it is a game, if she does not get her way she runs home and complains to mother. Do you really need all this drama? Next time be more selective of the women you date. Sorry, wish I could have been more up lifting with my advice, but somebody had to tell you the truth. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-21 16:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. I believe the most or at least one of the most important things in a relationship is to know you have someone you can rely on, especially when things don't look so bright. It is a safety net we all need with people we call family, if that isn't there, then there is no stability in the relationship. I believe she is unreliable, and immature. Be prepared to have a fight in court, if she uses your child as a weapon now, be ready cause it may get harder before it gets better. Make sure you get your visitations, and follow through with filing contempt's of court if she doesn't want you to see your child.
2007-02-21 16:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not run out on your wife because she doesn't work outside the home, no she shouldnt be on the phone a lot but you have no case to abandon her. I would say only for adultery.
Go to her mother and tell her she is contributing to this problem, and most likely encoraging her daughter to gossip about you. if they want to talk about prayer-- pray to Who? the God of the bible says the husband is the head of the wife, she cannot pick an chose which scripture she likes like eating at a buffett.
She will bring trouble down on herself as she continues to be rebellious towards her marraige. Go to a solid Christian pastor together, or go alone if she won't go--he will not tell her to confide in her mother.
2007-02-21 16:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is so many signs that you two are not compatible at all. You should never try to change the way a person is. Either you can except her with all of her flaws or let her go for good.
2007-02-21 16:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Cherri 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i would not go back with her, she is not helping u with finances, and she uses your child against u. she needs to talk to u not her mom, when she has a problem or a concern. but chances are that she is way to immature to deal with a relationship or get a job. divorce.
2007-02-21 17:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ol' "should I take her back" question. Logic says no, unless she has grown-up a great deal and has learned that respect, in any relationship, is not only important but key.
2007-02-21 16:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to look in the mirror and decide who is in charge, you or your reflected image. GEt your child and get a divorce, start all over and learn somebody new.
2007-02-21 15:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no even if hurts you , you shouldn't take her back she runs to her mom like a kid instead of talking to you like a married women thats what my husband always did every time we would quarell he would run to his mom my mother died when i was 18 so when i was married to my first husband we fought and hed run to his mom i had no one to run to i had to keep my anger in side youneed to tell your wife grow up or its over
2007-02-21 16:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋