what if I added these details:
I had an afternoon wedding. The wedding planner said that the mothers should wear short dresses. My [MIL]wanted to wear a long dress; my mother and I decided on short. I told my [MIL] she could wear any style, any color but, It needed to be short. When she "found" her dress.... it was long but she said she would have it shortened...... well, she didn't. Every time I look at our photos, I get angry..... yes, SHE DOES OWE ME!!!!!
2007-02-21 07:47:55 · 26 answers · asked by pissed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get over it.
Besides, who wants to see and old hag in a mini skirt?
Good luck
2007-02-21 07:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I went back and read your first question...needed some more insight before responding.
Did anyone ask your MIL why she preferred a long dress? Perhaps she's uncomfortable wearing short dresses? i.e. Religious, Spider Veins, unsightly bruises, etc...
It's kinda crazy that she did promise to have the dress shortened and then didn't do it. I would call her on that one...
Did her wearing the longer dress really ruin your wedding? It's in the past? Let it go...enjoy your newlywed state and don't ponder on it. Life is short. Don't let this get in the way of your marriage/happiness.
Tell your MIL how you feel. Call her, do it person, write her a letter. Do what you have to do to get it off your chest. Then let it go.
I got married recently and had a morning/daytime wedding. My MIL wore a long dress (mid-calf) and my mom wore a pant suit. It didn't matter to me what they wore. They did ask about color scheming...they didn't want to completely clash, but I could've cared less what they wore. I was more worried about my own dress, my grooms/BM's tuxes, flowers, catering, cake, etc...
Take a deep breath and let it all go.....
2007-02-21 07:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let it go. At the end of the day, you married her baby and she will always be his mother. It takes too much energy being angry of something so little. If you (God forbid) had a house fire or a tornado rip through your home and destroyed the pics, would you feel the same about a stupid dress being long in a picture? Be thankful for the small things, because when you've been married for 20 years a photo of a woman wearing a long dress will be the last of your worries.
2007-02-21 08:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy oh boy MIL could be a discomfort interior the butt for advantageous. They continually prefer to coach the daughter in regulations who's incharge of her son (and it ain't the spouse) Now the dress difficulty, did you and your new husband p.c.. the dress out together with her or became it only the two one among you? Now did you and the MIL have a solid dating earlier the marriage, if no longer she is spiting you. Now your husband could understand what a marriage day means to the girls (it means each little thing) so he could stay out of it. in case you've gotten a solid dating then maybe you're able to forget the final minute replace interior the dress, reason maybe some thing became incorrect with the unique dress and he or she did no longer prefer to difficulty you with ineffective concerns. All in all i'm advantageous the marriage became a large hit and you're happy.
2016-11-24 22:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by samas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like an idot, it was after all YOUR DAY.
Well you can't change the past, but this shows what a self- obsessed tyrant she can be and she isn't about to give up any 'power'. Never give in to her. All she had to do was a very small thing to honor your wishes.
Mabey her legs are so bad she had to hide them. I always like short dresses, I get compliments on my legs, [but a friend of mine has legs like tree trunks and won't wear short dresses.] So in the long run she would have only ruined your picture.
If your mil continues her spitefulness, she may find in future events that she wishes she hadn't been so devious.
2007-02-21 07:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you bother to consider the fact that your MIL might not be comfortable in a short dress? Did you even ASK for her opinion?
No, you just selfishly assume that she did it to spite you which shows that her son is in for a rough life ahead of him.
If you posted the question twice it tells me that you feel you need to be justified for being selfish.....poor man having to put up with a spoiled brat. be looking to be divorced within two years if you do not grow up and start acting like an adult!!!!!!
2007-02-21 07:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by mom tree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She owes you nothing...you are married to her son...if it is a happy marriage then you should THANK her for bringing her son up in a manner that would make him help create a happy marriage for the two of you. Stop acting like a spoiled two year old. Obviously you were too immature to get married to begin with.
2007-02-21 10:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get over it already, I got married in Vegas and neither one of my parents were able to make it. Just be happy. You gone get mad 20 years from now when you look at how young and purky you were then oppose to how old and gray your going to be. savor the flavor even with a long dress and enjoy the moment. Keep talking about that mans momma.....he gonna be mad at you.
2007-02-21 07:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by toonice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your making to much out of this..
Do you love your husband, do you guys have a great life together..If yes..than let it go...MIL are always tough to deal with, but if you love your man..just drop it...it's just a wedding.. a meaningless party..now marriage is what it is all about...
Let it just roll off your back..you will feel better for it..
2007-02-21 07:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It was a totally bitchy thing for her to do, but that does not mean that she "owes" you anything. If I were you I would let it go, just for the sake of having to put up with this woman for many years to come. Perhaps she was purposely trying to get under your skin - and if that's the case, don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you upset.
2007-02-21 07:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋