if your........?

Question

if your partener is asian and asked u to marry him would you. would you change all your religion for him ..

Answer 1

If my partner was Asian and I LOVED HIM yes I would marry him. However religion is such a personal matter. Many people I know are not very relgious. They constantly changed their religion based on whatever the religious beliefs of the person they were with were. However, the issue then becomes more if the Asian is very religious and you aren't very religious at all, you don't share similar values. That is something to seriously consider. America has a 50% divorce rate b/c people are not willing to discuss things like this before they get married. You need to discuss your beliefs and values, what religion means to you, and how it affects your future together.

However, if you aren't very religious (or uneducated on his religion) and he is (or comes from a family that is) and it doesn't really matter to you either way, I would consider it. Marriage is about compromise. But the question is does it really matter? Will the church not accept you if you are not the same religion? What about children--does his church require that the children be raised in that religion? Are you ok with this? Do you agree with the beliefs of that church or will you be pretending?

I do not have the same religious beliefs as my husband. My best friend does not have the same religious beliefs as her husband. However, the relationships work because everyone is honest about their beliefs. We are willing to explain our religion in details, and our husbands found that we have a lot more in common with their individual beliefs than would first be assumed. After all, most religions share common beliefs and were built around many similar stories and rules of conduct.

I would not change my religion for my husband b/c I consider that to be fake. I spent a lot of time on my religious practices and won't abandon them just to be married. However, if he educates you and in this you learn a lot about that religion and feel it's the right one for you--of course there is nothing wrong with converting. But make sure it's the right decision for you.

I will tell you if you are very strong Christian (which bases a lot of its religion on converting others) and he is very strong Islam (which is also based on converting), there is a strong chance that you will fight over this a lot. The religions are set up so that you feel the need to convert the other or believe he will be forever damned. Buddhism allows much room for negotiation--in fact many see it as a philosophy and you could be both a follower of Buddhism and Christianity. That is why it's more important to discuss the elements of the religion than place so much on its name.