My husband and my parents hate each other. My husband says my parents are too noisy and controlling-but they really worry because he is very selfish-and my parents want me to divorce my husband because he is so selfish. I want a divorce but I don't want my child to have a broken home. I feel like running away. Help me.
2007-02-21 07:41:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there will ALWAYS be rough points like this, no matter who you are with, staying together will do you, your kids, and your husband a lot of good, even if it doesnt sound like it
2007-02-21 07:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you want? Would you still want to divorce your husband if your parents were not in the picture? It is worse for your child to grow up in an atmosphere of constant fighting than for him to come from a broken home, if that is the only reason you are staying with this man, divorce him. But don't let your parents force a divorce if you are okay living with him.
2007-02-21 07:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by growing inside 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all seperate the two. Talk with your husband and be stern, not a pushover. Right now your family is secondary and you need to be stern with them and let them know that your marriage comes first. If things can be worked out with your marriage then do so, if not then you have another decision to make. Your child should be the important factor but to stay with a man you no longer love with is crazy. Your home is broken already with all the drama that's going on. Stand your ground with them both let your child see a strong woman.
2007-02-21 07:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you set a parameter that the child is the most important but placed a condition by which you didn't want your child to be in a broken home. I would talk to both and describe how you feel and if either party doesn't recognize the situation and respect your wishes then you need to make a tough decision on your own - without their help.
2007-02-21 07:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cdub 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you and your husband get on, are you happy apart from the problem with him and your parents. If you are happy apart from this, stay with your husband, and enjoy your life, keep distance between your husband and your parents,keep away from each other, and dont listen or talk to them when they start thier quarrells. If you dont like, or get on with him, ok get the divorce, your child will be better with 2 seperate happy parents, rather than an unhappy couple.
2007-02-21 07:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by leigha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide what is best for you and your child, not your parents, or anyone else for that matter. Sounds like you have to do a lot of soul searching and find out what is best for you. What do you want???
2007-02-21 08:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mike S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please try to find someone you can talk to that is a counselor and has dealt with these sort of situations before, you are in a very tough spot and I am very sorry for you. Someone who deals with this sort of thing for a living would probably do you the best good in directing you on the best path for you and your child.
2007-02-21 07:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must do what is right for you and your child. Do not let all these outside parties (related, married or not) tell you what to do. You need to take some time alone, get to know what it is you need to do to lead a full and rich life and do what YOU need to do. Good luck and God bless.
2007-02-21 07:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The questions is what do you want. You can't listen and follow your parents directions your married now. Listen to your heart.
If you don't love him and he hurts you then I say leave now but its really your decision make it for your self not to satisfy anyone else.
2007-02-21 07:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by Christina L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are married and have a child, so your responsibility is to the family you have formed, not to your family of origin. Rededicate yourself to your husband and, if necessary, (metaphorically) divorce your parents.
2007-02-21 07:46:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋