with our daughter after not having any contact with her for a year, he last saw her when she was 1. he just simply stopped calling etc. Then i received a letter from a solicitor stateing he wishes to see our child and shares the same rights as i do as his name is on the birth cert, however it is also filled with lies as to how it has only been a few months and that i stopped access to her. I wrote back explaining the info your client gave was false and i would only allow supervised visitations in a family contact centre to start with as he is basically a stranger to our daughter. I havent heard anything back and its been 2 weeks now. I am worried that this man has the right to keep entering and leaving our daughters life and i have no power to stop this from happening. any advice?
2007-02-21 07:17:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It can be hard to know what to do especially when your daughter is not old enough to make up her own mind. My dad was an **** when he split up from my mum he only wanted my two brothers he didnt want me so i went with my mum, i was about two. However soon after the split he applied to the court to start seeing me. Both parents agreed that he could have me visit him every other weekend, i did this untill i was about 17. I didnt particually like it i hated having a stepmum. (he remarried she had a son from a previous marriage, my step brother) My mum never forced me to go she always said i didnt have to if i didnt want to. When i stopped seeing him at 17 i didnt see him again for about 5 years. I now have a fairly good relationship with him, however, I would never ask anything from him. I know he is my dad but i am not as close to him as i am to my stepdad, who has bought me up from a baby. I realise now seeing him was a good thing, i got one step brother and one half brother (he had a son with my stepmum) who i both love dearly and if my dad had stayed away, i doubt i would ever of known them
2007-02-21 07:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, who has custody? if you have full custody then petition the court that he only have supervised visitation for the childs sake. Bring proof that he has not seen her in a long time and that you havd no idea where to find him.
Has he been paying child support? If not, ask that he also pay the arrears.
You also need to do some digging around - why is he now all of a sudden interested in her?
2007-02-21 07:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately being the child's father, he DOES have the right to keep entering and leaving his daughter's life. In my opinion, stick to your guns in trying to push for supervised visits...Once your daughter becomes old enough to gain an understanding of what kind of person he is, she'll be able to make decisions about seeing him for herself (given that he's still trying to come around by then). In my opinion, he did have half the responsibility in making the child, so he shouldn't be denied seeing her. But some parents do require supervision...sounds like he may be one of them. Good luck
2007-02-21 07:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by blamb! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fair enough to allow supervised visits. A good idea. See how he is and if he keeps visits regular. She is very young to understand very much about it but when she is older she will naturally want to know about her dad. If he messes up then you have every right to say he cant have access for your childs best interests but good on you for giving him the chance even though he lied about the circumstances.
2007-02-21 07:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just take him to court and insist that he sees her every week at a specific time/day? Don't let welfare officers put you off this idea saying thAT IT IS BETTER IF THINGS ARE LESS RIGID. (sorry about the capitals). If you insist that he actually HAS access it keeps you in control; do not let him make excuses for occaisions that he claims he cannot turn up - logit in a diary then if he then breaks the terms of the order you have a good case for applying for it to be rescinded (it also tends to take the wind out of their sails as the old saying goes). and , who knows, maybe he will make the effort to see her then.
2007-02-21 07:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right. Go and see a specialised family solicitor who will explain thoroughly what your rights, and those of the childs father are.
2007-02-21 07:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to court and get sole custody of your daughter and then it will be only if and when YOU say. Unless you do this...yes he can bounce in and out of her life because he has the right.
2007-02-21 07:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer block him notwithstanding this is no longer your accountability to run him down and tension him to do what he could be doing. you will basicallycontinual your self nuts. flow to the courts, document help, enable him do despite that's he plans on doing. Make him come to you, no longer any opposite direction around.
2016-10-02 12:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you get a solicitor yourself and ask them to write to his solicitor explaining your side of things and see how it goes from there. if you are worried he might try and fight for custody ask your solicitor if you can go to court for p.r (parental responsibility) and residency order
2007-02-21 12:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by leeanne0107 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is gnna b e real then yeah lett him see her but none of hat bouncing it is to unhealthy..he s a punk he coould have tried to clear thins with you without a lawyer good luck
2007-02-21 07:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by TheKid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋