Need some advice... me and my girl of 8 years have had a great relationship up until about 3 weeks ago when I was suspecting she was cheating on me, when she needed some help from a guy to get on the police department. She said all it was, was him helping her and nothing else. Yet, she was hiding text messages, calls, and emails.
Well everything went back to normal and I am fine. But I brought it up tonight, I told her just to tell me. I guess we took a "break" about 2 weeks ago and thats when I was suspecting maybe she messed around with him. She swore up and down she didn't.
Tonight, I said jokingly, "if we broke up, after 9 years, and the next day I had sex with another woman, would you be mad?" She said, "no, I would have no right to be, we weren't together." Keep in mind the few day break we took about 2 weeks ago.
Anyway, I know it comes down to trust, but she's done this before.
What do you all think??
2007-02-21 07:16:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that if you truly trust her then you can believe her when she says she's not cheating. You need to sit down and have that serious heart to heart. If you believe that she is not currently cheating, even if she maybe did a long time ago in the past, and you really love her, then maybe you can just set that aside and move on. Have you considered marriage as the next step?
2007-02-21 07:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by whitanay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instincts...If you suspect she is cheating then do a little more than just accusing and find out if she is or not that's the only way your going to know weather or not she is cheating on you...
Their are certain signs people have when cheating or lying...we make facial expressions, we do certain things when we lie though some are very good and don't do nothing at all..
From what you said about her hiding text messages and emails ect i understand where your coming from and those are some signs of a cheating spouse/girlfriend...Has she changed the way she acts towards you? Has she all of a sudden been fighting with you, not wanting to kiss you, sleep with you, leaving all the time ect? If so then ya she might be cheating, obviously talking to her doesnt do any good unless she is telling you the truth and your just being paranoid but if she isnt then take matters into your own hands and do something about it.
good luck!
2007-02-21 15:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhmm..the truth is she probably would be mad if you slept with someone the day after you broke up. She just wouldn't admit it. But maybe its because she wants you to have the same view so that if you found out she had been cheating on you, you would forgive her because you weren't together 'just like she would'..To be honest though, if you've been together for 8 years and she won't show the text messeges then there's something wrong. In my opinion you need to force her to tell you the truth i don't know how but you do...sorry i can't be more help...i've never been in this situation..:S
2007-02-21 15:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by calchesterton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are letting your jealousy cloud your judgement. Ask her once and let it be.
You are probably having an issue with low self esteem. You should correct whatever is making you depressed about yourself rather than taking it out on her in the form of suspicion.
2007-02-21 15:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry bout it.
2007-02-21 15:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by Trey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋