My man left his wife 10 months ago but is still paying her mortgage, utilities, car note and car insurance, totalling about $3500 per month. That disturbs me. My BGF says that it means that he still is interested in her. He says that he is not and has asked for divorce but he is not filing because she said that she will add me to the lawsuit and make it as messy as possible. I know that he could be lying but what if he isn't? Is there some other reason that he would pay all of this every month?
2007-02-21 07:16:35 · 16 answers · asked by jazz41 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, he's married and it's his responsability to support his wife, his household and his children. This is not your man and is not your money, why should you be upset?
Good luck
2007-02-21 07:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You man is just using you to have a fling, sooner or later he will end up back with his wife. If he didn't care for her anymore, he would not be paying her all that money. Look in the mirrow and what do you see, I know you have a gut feeling that he will go back to his wife. You don't have to be putting yourself through this kind of stuff, I know you have more self-esteen than that. He is only using you to satify his needs for now.
2007-02-21 07:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something YOU SHOULDN"T BE MESSING WITH A MARRIED MAN, and yes she can add you to the lawsuit and she could sue you also its called alienation of affections, and you better get use to him paying the bills because most likely he will have to pay them for awhile, and chances are now his wife has got him exactly where she wants him so my advice to you is to leave him alone before she sues you too.
2007-02-21 07:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mary O 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably because she won't or can't pay it. He doesn't want his credit shot by the divorce which happens pretty often. Or he's trying to have it both ways and is still interested. It's not over until it's over. And if they have kids together, it's never over.
2007-02-21 07:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can she add you to the law suit? Obviously this guy has no intentions of divorcing his wife and is giving YOU a line of bullshit that you obviously are buying in order to keep YOU interested in him. There is nothing quite like gullibility.
2007-02-21 11:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the wife has a right to this. And yes she can make it messy.
My question is this? What the hell were you thinking messing around with at married man?
The wife always wins!!!!!!!
2007-02-21 07:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Messy situation!!! MESSY! He shouldn't be paying all that for her, I would be concerned to. It all depends if you live with him or not.
If you do, then he needs to make a decision because you are now his mate. But if you don't then you have no say in it. *Sorry*
Good Luck!
2007-02-21 07:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many great relationships END becasue of the BGF putting her two cents in it.
2007-02-21 07:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...there could be so many reasons for that. It is not the issue to know them. I think that he knows better what to do. If he is providing for both of you you shouldn't be upset at all. It is his affairs.
2007-02-21 07:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jay C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are still married, he is responsible for her. It was he who walked out, not her. and she is entitled to be taken care of the same way she was when he was with her. She and children come first. then himself and girlfriends.
2007-02-21 07:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋