Is it disrespectful or pushy or arrogant maybe to let someone know you find them attractive?

Question

Even though you've only had limited interaction here? Not just physical attraction but you like the way their mind works, their spirit, and so on? Or would it come across as a smarmy thing to do because you're already in a relationship?

Answer 1

I don't think it is either disrespectful, pushy, or arrogant to let someone know that you find them attractive. Most human beings would be flattered and possibly a little embarrassed.

As for coming across as smarmy...my opinion is that just because a person is in a relationship it doesn't mean that he or she can't appreciate another human being's physical, mental, & spiritual attractiveness.

If MORE people stopped to say "Hey I think you're really handsome" or "Hi...I think you're really cute" or even "Wow...you are so smart" this world would be a far far better place...

Finding someone to be attractive DOES NOT mean that you want to do the Horizontal Hula with them.

Answer 2

At work or even at school it's important how you do it--it might be construed as sexual harassment, and it can get you in trouble. Try a subtle and sincere compliment first and carefully observe how it is received. If that person seems the least bit put off by you, quit and wait for them to make the next move. Also, the intent behind your compliment is usually more apparent than you think, so if you're just trying to score points, don't. Too, you should ask yourself how the person you are currently involved with would feel if they overheard you pay someone else the compliment.

Answer 3

Is it pushy to let someone know that you find them atractive??? No. Not at all. But is it wrong to let someone know you're attracted to them in all of the above-mentioned ways when you are already in a relationship??? Yes. Its wrong & rude & disrespectful to the person you are already with. If your relationshp is ending, just end it and THEN go tell the other person you're attracted.

Answer 4

If you are already in a relationship it's "a smarmy thing to do". What do you expect the outcome to be........ If you want out of your present relationship, take care of that first....... I'm really surprised to hear this question from you Milkbone !!!!!!

Answer 5

Well to be honest, I wouldn't be offended if anyone had told me that. I guess that if you are in a relationship and are trying to use it to cheat, then maybe. But just because you think someone is nice, I don't have much of a problem with that.

Answer 6

"Is it disrespectful or pushy or arrogant maybe to let someone know you find them attractive?"

If done with respect, taste and decorum, then, NO. It's simply a matter of courtesy and manners.

Answer 7

I don't find it disrespectful or arrogant to tell someone that they are attractive, it would be giving them a complement.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

it depends on how you approach the person and how they react to you. study their body language...if they seem like they are attracted to you then yes go for it...in a nice respectable way of course and be sincere about it too~

Answer 10

letting someone know you think they're attractive can be a two edged sword . . they may take it as a complement or they may take it as you wanting a relationship with them . . be clear if you do let them know . you could end up with a stalker . .