I live in Illinois and I was wondering how it would work if I chose for my children not to see their biological father. I have many reasons for this...
1) He does NOT pay child support
2) He only calls to see the kids when it is convienent for him
3) He has warrants in both Illinois and Wisconsin for non payment of child support
4) He is "hiding out" from the cops because of these warrants---if they arrest him, he will automatically go for 90 days.
5) He (as I was informed by his father) is hanging out with "crackheads"
What is your opinion on this? Can I keep the kids away from him without getting into trouble myself?
2007-02-21 06:50:11 · 12 answers · asked by BRIDGIE74 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
It's a simple three step program that anyone can follow.
Step 1) Get somebody to locate that useless P.O.S.
Step 2) Have them beat him within in inch of his life, and tell him that if he comes anywhere near you or your children, that the consequences will be very very bad for him.
Step 3) While he is still picking broken pieces of his teeth out of his upper lip, inform him that he will pay no less than 50% of his income to support his children. He will give the money to his father, who will give it to you, so that no contact will have to occur. He will turn himself in, pay all delinquent support, and be gainfully employed as soon as possible, or a second beating will be necessary - and this one won't be as gentle.
2007-02-21 07:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by joemammysbigguns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you prevent visitation, HE has the right to appeal this to a court.
You could do this yourself, explaining all that you have here, but it will not be easy getting a judge to agree with you unless you can provide substantial support of drug involvement or other things that courts look upon negatively. Note that word substantial...this does not mean that you heard it from someone else, but incontrovertible evidence that can be provided to the court.
Warrants against him are dealt with by the police, and, while this would be a consideration, it not have as much of an impact on a judge's considerations for visitation rights as you would like, because most judges will accept that there should be something available.
A judge would, again, need to know specifics.
It would be best for you to seek legal counsel before taking any action.
2007-02-21 07:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by Ef Ervescence 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Courts will never tie money to visitation, so the fact that he does not pay will not prevent him from seeing his kids. You can go to court to have his visitation adjusted if he won't abide by your agreement. Warrant for his arrest and non payment for other children is baseless too. Your only chance is to get him to sign over his parental rights. You need to get a lawyer to voice your concerns to the court and get your visitation agreement changed to better suit your needs. Honestly the reasons you listed here do not constitute the drastic decision to cut off his ties from his own children. Yes, he needs to grow up and get his head on straight, but please don't deprive your children. Get a lawyer and discuss your options. Best of luck.
2007-02-21 07:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by Rach23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to apply legally to have this done. The worst that would happen (supposing he doesn't get arrested first) is that he would only be able to have supervised visits in a neutral location.
Child visitation and child support are not tied together. Unless you can prove him unfit, he has the right to see his children.....
If he is a druggie....get a lawyer and file papers for limited supervised visits.
2007-02-21 07:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up a visitation, tell the police that a warrant has been issued for this fellow, and make sure that he and police arrive at the same time. Just be sure the kids aren't there to see it though.
2007-02-21 06:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by bigbro3006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the person is using drugs or hanging out with those who do and you can prove it go back to court and petition the court to cease visitation rights until they get cleaned up. the matter of child support will also fall into play at this time. think about this what if your ex had the kids and was busted buying drugs or was hanging with someone who had drugs on them, where do you think your children will go???
2007-02-21 07:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by milton b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly for you he knew a thank you to control you...and the device to. you may desire to checklist each correspondence you and your son have with this guy on paper. you may desire to make your will and in case you have sole custody of the youngster you may make it a stipulation that the father could desire to fulfill specific standards to be the childs custodian interior the shape of your dying. which includes he could desire to be on and stay to tell the story his drugs (maximum bipolar sufferers are ok on their meds) and he could desire to maintain your son in some form of counseling and so on and so on. As widespread custodial you have the acceptable suited to assert the place your cihld could finally end up if the different parent is shown no longer worth.
2016-10-02 12:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just take him to court and get sole custody of your kids. I know I wouldnt want my children growing up in that enviroment. Best of Luck to you
2007-02-21 06:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by mom of 2 beautiful girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be able to keep him away from the kids.....another thing you could do......set it up for him to pick them up, then have them not there....and have the police greet him at the door instead. IF they will enforce the warrents. On the bright side......if he tries to take you to court to enforce seeing the kids they will take him to jail when he shows up. Remember to tell the school that he isn't allowed to pick them up from there or he may show up to take them!
2007-02-21 07:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by TJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Given all the things you've just said, I don't blame you for not wanting him at the kids. If I were you, I would consult a good lawyer.
2007-02-21 06:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋