My ex and i got a divorce in 98 ( her ideal ) I still love her very much. She has gotten remarried but we have kids together so we see each other quiet often. She has even told me that she wishes now that she had tried to work everthing out. I would never be able to trust her again.When i married her it was until death do us part. Neither of us cheated on each other (as for as i know ) She just told me that she no longer loved me. I know i need to move on in my life and i feel i have to a point.But the feelings i have for her are still there.Am i truely wrong for feeling this way? Also we were married for 10 years.She was my bestfriend,wife,lover and the mother of my children.Thanks for your advice
2007-02-21 06:48:43 · 9 answers · asked by lawson403 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if she has remarried, then yes you need to move on. You can always love her, but decidedly so, you too need happiness in your life. We always make decisions and then look back on them at a different time and wish we would have worked things out or made a different decision. In essence, its too late, I think that there is too much water under the bridge. She didn't cheat but she admits she didn't love you anymore? You love her, don't you deserve someone in your life to love you back. It seems like its almost impossible to think of loving someone else, but it will happen. Dont rush things, but do not keep hope out for someone who has admitted that she doesn't love you anymore, I can't see where someone can love someone and then flip the switch and not love them, then at a convenient time, flip it again and want to love them again. By her saying she wishes she would have worked things out, only made a little speck of hope appear for YOU, do what is best for your kids, raise them apart, and don't worry, your kids will be fine if you and her are. Divorce is hard on children, very hard, painful even, but you need to be there for them, not her anymore. Make yourself happy!
2007-02-21 06:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a reason why your wife divorced you, known only to her. Being that you do not trust her love for you I feel it best you leave things as they are. You feel you still love her because she is still a part of your life and therefore it has been more difficult for you to move on. Her mention of she wishing she would have stayed in the marriage and work it out with you is only an indication of her having problems in her current marriage. Do not claim false hope or you are doomed to get hurt once again. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-21 07:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. But it is time to move on. She is a big part of your past. But it was your past. She is married again now. You have to let her have a chance at a life with her current husband. You will find someone else and that will help.
2007-02-21 06:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you sound like a great guy, you shouldn't want leftovers. She is probably having problems with her new husband and so she tells you that she regrets leaving you, but she is still with him isn't she! It has been a long time, give your love to someone who will appreciate it and not all of a sudden wake up one morning and not be in love with you anymore!
2007-02-21 09:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously what you guys had was something very convenient and attaching but it wasnt love because there has to be two people involved when in love...
she left you so she obviously was not...
move on,its bery normal for you to miss her but the thing is that if she loved you she would have worked it out with you,and not have been so quick to get remarried...
and obviously there was something you didnt know going on.
you were married but you arent. now she is some other guys problem,if she wants to keep on going back and fourth let her do it on her own.
let her know that she is married and thats who she should be in love with now,tell her you loved her tooo but obviously she didnt love you enough to make things work
2007-02-21 07:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will always be connected to her through your children but obviously she has moved on, you need to do the same. You're not wrong in feeling the way you do you just need to grow past it, gain closure, it's over time to move on.
2007-02-21 12:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is to late. You will always love her, but she has moved on, you need to also, there is someone out there for you, go get her - let your ex go. It's ok to be friends with her, but that is all it is - a friendship.
2007-02-21 06:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without trust, a second time around with her wouldn't last. Let it go and move on.
2007-02-21 07:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
we all try to control our hearts but when you love someone you just love them. i hope that you can go on and not forget her but learn that you may love someone only to have that love not returned.
2007-02-21 06:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by greeneyed_angel362002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋