My husband cheated on me one time 6 months into our marriage. SHE told me because we were friends --- it was a year later. I've always caught him with pornography (completely against our religious beliefs). On occassion, he'll flirt with my best friend and I recently found out that they went running together one day when she was visiting us (when we lived across the country from her). Also, he'll flirt with girls in front of me. He says he doesn't know why he does this. I'm obsessively worried all the freaking time about whether he's doing the cheating thing again. He doesn't enjoy my conversation topics anymore and I can't get him to share anything about his life with me. I have always tried to be an attentive wife -- trying to meet his needs. We were best friends before we got married. What could have made it go so wrong? How can I trust him? We've been married 6 1/2 years now and these feelings of mistrust are still happening. What should I say to him?
2007-02-21 06:43:29 · 3 answers · asked by mandirae23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is obvious from what you say that he is not interested in you anymore... I know that this hurts but it is the truth. The fact that you do not trust him means that the relationship is over. Let go, and look on the bright side, you don't have to try to meet his needs anymore.
Something similar to your situation happened with me and my ex-wife. She cheated on me with my friend. She became uninterested in me, etc etc. I unfortunately had to divorce her because I couldn't trust her and felt that I never would again, luckily we had no children. Actually, it wasn't so unfortunate because now I have someone that is 100 times better emotionally and physically.
You really have to be honest with yourself. Can you live your life not being able to trust your partner?
2007-02-21 07:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by hrld_sleeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are three reasons to divorce, the three A's.
Adultry
Addiction
Abuse
He is on the top of that list. He is not even trying to change and is emotionally detatched from you. Sorry, his little member is the center of his life now. You need to divorce and find a real man.
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2007-02-21 15:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are making him your ex!!!!!
2007-02-21 15:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋