Should my freind leave his crazy wife?

Question

My freinds wife is crazy. Before they got married she put on a good front. Nice, freindly and loving. After they put the rings on it was like a light switch was flipped. One minute she is wanting him to leave and go hang out with his friends the next minute she is calling and cursing him out for not wanting to spend time with her. This is after she told him to go. She also has brought so much debt into his life. The girl spends at least $300 a week at the dollar store. Her credit card bills alone are $2500 a month. They barely make enough to cover that. He did not know any of this untill after the marriage. Here is the catcher. They have a beautiful baby girl together. He is scared that she will keep her from him and he will have to pay allomony. He is still in college and she is a school teacher. She has failed a physciatric test 2 out of 3 times.

The test she took were given over a period of years after her father died. The doctor put her on anti-depresant medicine, which she does not take half the time. And for all of you it kinda is my buisiness. He is actually my brother in-law and best friend.

Answer 1

well if she has failed a psychiatric test, she shouldnt be teaching and maybe she shouldnt be looking after a baby either. the best thing he can do is go to an attorney and see where he stands. he may be able to get custody if she is unstable and then that would cut down on the money part. but he really does need to consult a lawyer.

Answer 2

I don't think he necessarily needs to leave his crazy wife as much as he needs to take those credit cards and put them in a shredder and sit down and do a budget with her. Young married couples do some pretty crazy things and blame it on each other when in fact if the couple just sat and talked and went over some finer details of their life and worked on it things would be a lot easier. For the baby's sake I hope they can do this. As for alimony, he since she is a teacher she may not get it but he will pay child support for he is 50% responsible for the baby's welfare and courts normally award visitation to the fathers.

Answer 3

Forget counseling he needs to get out now, they will never own anything as long as she spends money like that. She is a school teacher and makes a good living. Beings she has a job and can support herself he will not have to pay alimony. If the child is his he will have to pay child support. Just consider it a blessing and pay the child support. Run, don't walk. Place an add in the local paper stating that you are no longer responsible for any debts acquired by anyone other than himself. Believe me his child support will be less than what she spends at the dollar store

Answer 4

I think that this is a lesson your friend has to learn for himself. Yes she may get upset about him going out because once you start having children and making a family your time should be spent at home. That's what happens you marry someone you really don't know. Or you didn't discuss the future before had. With the money issue they should have talked about that issue first before even moving in together. If your not married yourself then you should take your friends situation and learn from it. All you can do is be there for you friend when he comes to talk to you. Just because you thinks she's crazy doesn't mean he will leave her either. Just stand my his side.

Answer 5

Seperation, considering they do have a child together and he doesn't want to give her a penny. Or get a good lawyer and divorce would totally work. I've been married for 7 years, everything in marriage is supposed to be agreed on together especially finances!

Answer 6

It is partially his fault for marrying her is the first place. He should have asked her about her debt and spending habits before they got married. However, if he is not happy in the relationship and not willing to try and improve it then they should split. The only thing he should worry about is child support and custody arrangements.

Answer 7

I think you need to mind your own business and not influence your friend. You may be adding to the stress by reinforcing how he can no longer go out etc. And it depends on how often he wants to hang out with his friends. Is your friend perfect I wonder about that. Anyways let him decide. And what psychiatric test did she have to endure? That makes no sense to me. She failed what test? I didnt know there was a test for sanity. If there was I would imagine there would be millions lined up for a retest if it was that simple. It takes months for a doctor to assess a patient mentally yet she keeps taking tests for her mental capacity. Very very interesting ;-)

Answer 8

no matter what we say, it is still up to him. most likely, he will keep the situation until he snaps one day. it took me 3+ years after we had a kid to realize what my ex did to me. so let him figure things out, he knows what is going on, and he is the only one to pull the plug. we might point him into the right direction, but he is holding all the marbles to this and only he can put them in the right place. he is going through hell! so did i, and i wish him luck and much of it

Answer 9

If my ex reported that to me i could first positioned him in his place via reminding why he sucked as a husband. Then i could insist that he convey regret to me and my husband, so specific you may anticipate an apology. Your spouse probably basically needs to play the peacemaker, my guess is she would not like disagreement. If that's the single and basically time something like this has befell enable it choose on your spouse's sake. If it happens back make a huge deal out of it. upload: HaHa Carpe - good one i could could believe him.

Answer 10

Your friend will not have to pay her alimony but he will have to pay child support and most likely seeing how they both work they may have to split the debts. It doesn't matter how many test she failed she has got to be proven unfit in order for him to get custody he can fight for it but there is no guarantee he will get it.