how can I be happy in my life?

Question

Im depressed.disappointed,sick of every thing.angry,hate every one and hate every thing.and exhausted plus headache..............................still 16

Answer 1

Anger and hate will never result in happiness once you let these go you will find peace in yourself and therefore find peace in life.
( sorry for sounding like a fortune cookie but its true )

Answer 2

Yeah I get like this a lot and it sucks. You are more that likely experiencing depression. I would advise you to go talk to someone, a counselor or even your doctor to get on some medication. If that is not an option, finding out the source of your anger always helps me a little bit. Usually when I am in one of my "I hate everyone" moods it is because I am angry at myself. I know it is difficult to look in the mirror sometimes because we don't always like what we see but self-reflecting can actually be a good thing. Don't feel alone; there are many out there who can really relate and I happen to be one of them. Try to do one thing a week for yourself; something that you really enjoy, even if it seems lame, read a book, go shopping, just one thing can be helpful. Good luck to you and CHEER UP, not everyone is hate-worthy!!

Answer 3

When I get in those types of moods what I do is step back and evaluate my life. Usually I've been trying to be something I'm not, and when I'm trying to live up to others expectations I never win.When I start to live for myself, and work towards goals I set for myself, life seems better. LOL

Answer 4

1. The state of your soul and mind.
2. The way that you treat people.
3. The pure love and true happiness you have deep in your heart.

Answer 5

You should set goals you want to achieve in life. Go the library and get a goal setting book or tape. It will motivate you into wanting to do more with your life. Set goals and check them off as you achieve them. Set goals for today and for 10 years. You will live much better knowing that you are getting stuff done that you want to.

Answer 6

I'd suggest that you see a medical professional first. After you have been checked out by a doctor, I think you should get a job that you find satisfying and fulfilling. Good luck.

Answer 7

You don't get in to detail what's bothering you and I'm not going to guess on what's wrong. I do know this, You have to learn how to be a teenager. You have so much HATE and DEPRESSION in your life.....You have to learn how to have fun, exercise, play sports, occupy your mind with fun, NOT HATE AND DEPRESSION........Like I used to tell my kids when they were growing up, have fun while you are a teenager because when you grow up you'll regret not having fun......I'm not going to tell you what to do because kids don't listen to adults. I know that all I can do is point you in the write direction. " LIFE IS SHORT" don't waste it be a teenager HAVE FUN............

GOOD LUCK TO YOU..................

Answer 8

go for some physical excercise and learn yoga and breathing excercises from a yoga trainer...it will help ..good luck

Answer 9

you have to go to a strip club

Answer 10

*Please Patiently read. Thank You.*

*What in the world is the difference between loving a person, and being attached to them? Love is the sincere wish, for others to be happy and to be free from suffering. Having realistically realized other’s kindness, as well as their faults, Love is Always focused on the other person’s welfare. We have no ulterior intensions or motives to fulfill our own self-interests; or to fulfill our own desires, we love others, all people, simply because they exist. Attachment, on the other hand, exaggerates others’ good qualities, and makes us crave to be with them. When we’re with them, we are happy, but when we’re separated from them, we’re miserable. Attachments are always linked with expectations of what others should be, or what they should do for us. Is love, as it is understood in most societies, really love OR attachment ? Let us examine this a little more. Generally speaking, we are attracted {drawn to) people because they have qualities we value, or because they help us in some way. If we carefully observe, through introspection, our own thought processes we’ll notice that we very often look for specific qualities in others. Some of these qualities we are drawn to are qualities within our parents, or qualities which society values.
We examine someone’s looks, education, social status, financial status, and so forth. This is how Most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value, or not. In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us. If they praise us, encourage us, help us, if they listen to what we have to say, if they make us feel secure, if they take care of us when were sick, unhappy or depressed, we consider them good, or sometimes righteous people, and these are the people we more drawn to, whom we are most likely attracted to, and the people we choose to be around with.
In all honesty, this is very biased, for we are judging them, only in terms of how they relate to us, as if we are the most important person in the world & thinking the world revolves around us! After we’ve judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them, it appears to us as if goodness is radiating out from within them, but as we are more mindfully aware, we realize that we have projected this goodness on to them.
Desiring to be the people who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo’s, when we’re with these people, we’re up, but when we’re not with them, we’re down. Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with these people will be, and thus have expectations of them. “When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we’re unhappy, disappointed or may even become angry. We want them to change so that they will match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from other people. Our problems arise not because others aren’t who we thought they were, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they were not. We often use a type of Checklist also. Checklist: “I Love You IF ___________ !” This Love is Conditional and what we call love, is most often attachment. It is actually an attitude which overestimates the qualities of another person.
’Then we cling tightly to that person, thinking our peace and happiness depends on that person. We even often blame that person for our unhappiness.’ Love, on the other hand, is a very patient, calm, optimistic and relaxed attitude. We want others to be free from suffering and to be happy simply because they exist. While attachments are uncontrolled, and too emotionally sentimental, Love is Patient, powerful, and controlled(disciplined). Attachment obscures our judgment {our ability to make sound, wise decisions), and we become impatient, angry, and impartial – helping our dear ones, and those who do us no harm. Love clarifies our mind, & we access a situation by thinking of the greatest good for everyone. Attachment is based on selfishness, while love is founded on valuing, & cherishing others, even those who do not look very appealing to us. Love always looks beyond all the superficial appearances and dwells on the fact that they are just like us: they want peace of mind, happiness, and wish to avoid suffering. If we see an unattractive, or unintelligent people we most often feel repulsed, because our selfish minds want to find attractive, intelligent, and talented people. On the other hand, Love never evaluates others by theses superficial standards and looks much deeper into the person. Love recognizes that regardless of the others appearances, they’re experiences are they same as ours: they want inner mental peace, happiness, and wish to be from suffering. When we’re attached, we’re not mentally, emotionally, & spiritually free. For we overly depend on, and cling to another person, to fulfill our emotional, mental, and spiritual needs. We fear losing the person, fearing that we’d be incomplete without them.” This does Not mean that we should suppress all our emotional needs, or become aloof, and totally independent, for that too would not solve the problem. We must simply realize our unrealistic needs and slowly, gently and patiently – seek to eliminate them. If we try to suppress them, pretending they do not exist, we become insecure, anxious, or possibly depressed. In this case, we do our best to fulfill our needs, while simultaneously working gradually to subdue them. The core problem is that most of us seek to be loved, rather than to love. We yearn to be understood by others, rather than to understand them. Our sense of emotional insecurities comes from the selfish obscuring of our own minds. We develop confidence by recognizing our inner potential to become a Selfless human being, having many magnificent qualities, and then we’ll develop and have an accurate perception of ourselves, gaining self-confidence. We’ll seek to increase true unconditional love, to increase compassion, to cultivate patience, as well as generosity, right concentration and wisdom. Under the influence of attachment, we’re bound by our unstable emotional reactions to others. When they’re nice to us, we’re happy, but when they ignore us or speak sharply to us, we take it personally, and are unhappy. But pacifying attachment doesn’t mean we become hard-hearted, rather without attachments, there will be space in our hearts and minds for genuine affection and impartial love for them. And as a result, we’ll be more actively involved with them. As we learn to transform our minds & lives, through subduing our attachments, we can definitely have successful friendships, and personal relationships with others. These relationships will be richer, more meaningful because of the freedom and respect the relationships are based on. We’ll really care about the happiness and misery of all human beings equally, simply because everyone is the same inside: we all want inner peace of mind, Happiness, and to be from suffering.
However, of course, our lifestyles and interests may be a bit more compatible with some people. Our friendships and our personal relationships will be based on mutual interests, and to help other people. Having such an attitude, we’ll be much More Patient, & tolerant toward others; will remain mentally calm, having Peace of Mind and Happiness, and we’ll communicate successfully with others in life.*