Does EVERY one cheat??

Question

What do you think about monogomy? Ever cheated? Regret it?

Answer 1

Married more than 35 years and never cheated. Tempted, yes. Cheated, NO WAY. The grass may look greener or more fun, but a commitment is a commitment.

If you are thinking of such a move, think, "Is it better with my hubby or without him?" And, remember would you want to spend a lifetime with someone who helped you break both morale and legal vows?

Trust in a marriage is vital. If you don't want the marriage, go out the door, shut it, divorce and move on to a new chapter in your life. But don't look back because you cannot return if you leave, and by that I mean cheat!

Answer 2

Oh wow some of us are living in a dream world where jumping from bed to bed is okay just as long as it isn't hurting anybody or the other partner knows about it. In the long run it will and it very well might be the person advocating this kind of destructive behavior, getting hurt. But to answer your question does everyone cheat? No. I have never cheated. I am not that deceptive. And I am a firm believer that what goes around comes around.

Sorry, but to actually love somebody you love w/ mind, BODY and soul. If someone tells you that its okay to be w/ others and claim that they are in a loving relationship they are feeding you a bunch of bs. For me monogamy is key. Anything else is just a counterfeit relationship at best.

Answer 3

I'm in a polyamorous relationship - meaning we're allowed to pursue and fall in love with other people - but I believe that couples should follow the ground rules of their relationships, whatever those rules may be.

So if a relationship is based on monogamy, then those partners need to keep their word - or, if they feel tempted to cheat, have a talk *before* breaking a rule about changing the relationship (or ending it).

I'm not polyamorous because I have cheated, because I haven't. I'm polyamorous because I have been cheated on, and that's when I realized it doesn't make sense to end a perfectly good relationship just because of a relationship between your partner and someone else that has nothing to do with you. If I could have done that relationship over, I would have debated monogamy from the beginning instead of just assuming it was what was right for us, established an "it's okay to have, and act on, feelings for other people" policy, and made sure my partner was strong enough to be truthful. But hindsight is 20/20, you know?

So in my relationship, cheating would be breaking a relationship ground rule: not being honest with my partner about who else I'm involved with. And no, I have not cheated. We get through it together.

Overall, monogamy is good for some people, but it doesn't work that well. I don't like the principle of ownership - the whole "you're mine!" thing. If the only thing keeping your relationship together is that you promise each other you'll shut down any human love you feel for people you don't "belong" to, then how strong is it really?

I don't believe that "true love" means you feel it for just one person. I truly love my partner, very deeply, and we are very emotionally committed to each other. What does that have to do with my relationships to others? Love isn't a commodity, it doesn't run out or have to be split up amongst a bunch of people. Time and effort are - those are what take more managing in a polyamorous relationship. But love can be endless.

Anyway, I see a lot of people who have problems with jealousy and monogamy - I think that's what most relationship problems circle around. Polyamory doesn't cure those problems, but it does give you a different outlook.

Namely: it's okay to love or like or be sexually attracted to more than one person, as long as you are loving, respectful, open and considerate to the people you are involved with.

Loving or liking or wanting to fool around with other people, does not mean that you must feel less of those things with your partner.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

Everyone doesn't cheat, but in the past I have cheated out of revenge. I discovered the woman I was with was cheating, so I in return cheated. The other woman knew the situation and knew she was the other woman. We were already physically attracted to one another, but we didnt pursue it because we both were beginning new relationships. Her boyfriend decided he wanted to be gay and my girlfriend decided she wanted to be a whore. So this woman and I began sleeping together. My so called girlfriend went on lying to me about her whereabouts, saying she was at work when she'd been fired 2 weeks before for missing too many days. I eventually caught her in the act, dumped her, and then told her I was cheating on her anyway. I felt good for about 5 minutes, then I felt bad for lowering myself to her sneaky, slimy level. So yes I do regret it because I became what I hated the most and I was screwed over by someone I really cared about. Nothing became of me and the other woman because all we were was physically attracted to each other. We couldn't stand each other otherwise.

Answer 5

I think monogomy is a great blessing for God. I also think it's a great responsibility from God. No, not everyone cheats.

Answer 6

I haven't, but been cheated on. I hate it to the point where whenever I meet someone who is interested in me, if I find out they cheated on someone else with me, I go to the person cheated on and tell them.

Now I'm married and my wife would like me to have a girlfriend... mainly because at one point my wife was cheating on me and I found out - and I still won't have a girl friend... I have enough trouble pissing one woman at a time off! ;)

PS - my wife and I worked out our problems and are now together and with no one else. We'll be celebrating 22 years of marriage this summer.

Answer 7

I've never cheated, despite having the opportunity and temptation to do so. However, I HAVE been cheated on, more than once. It sucks.

Answer 8

My ex husband cheated. I know his dad cheated. Sometimes I think its a learned behavior. Sometimes I think its out of selfishness.

Answer 9

nope i dont think EVERYONE cheats some people are honest. but personally ive never cheated on a guy so no not everybody cheats just the occasional jackass

Answer 10

I've never cheated, my roommate and her fiance never cheated, however we all have had bf/gf's in the past who have cheated on us.