well you see im bisexual and i have a girl friend but we got into a fight and i cheated on her with a guy well im pregneat and i dont no how to tell her and worse my parents cause im only almost 17 and they dont no im bi help
2007-02-21 06:11:04 · 9 answers · asked by emily 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Alright, you have to think seriously about your life right now and make some adult decisions. Do you plan on keeping the child, or abortion or putting it up for adoption? Your parents won't be proud of you, but they should be proud that you are willing to take responsibility for what you did and are taking steps to fix it. Since the guy doesn't seem to want to be with you, keeping the child would be very difficult, however you could give the child a chance at a great life by putting it up for adoption. Your parents should love you no matter what, but I wouldn't reveal that I was bi or anything until you have more stability in your life.
2007-02-21 06:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by elvishbard 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to worry about YOU. Are you ready to have a child? You need to think about that decision above all else. I don't know where your parents stand but because you are not yet 18 the best thing to do is to confide in then so that they can help you. There is no need right now to tell them anything else about your sexuality. That discussion can happen later if indeed you feel the need to tell them at all. Although it will be extremely difficult you need to tell them if you are actually pregnant. The fact of the matter is you are probably not of an age where you are able to make that decison yourself. if you were an adult it would be a diiferent story. Whatever you decide to do, you need to seek medical attention as soon as possible. Do you have another trusted adult you can go to? If so, talk to them first. Having them there when you confide in your parents may make it easier on you as well. Above all, remember it's YOUR decision to make and live with the rest of your life. Choose what is best for you, and don't worry about boyfriends/girlfriends right now.
2007-02-21 14:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first. you need to decide how you want to deal with this pregancy situation. give birth or not? and if so, keep the baby or not.. you probably should tell the guy you are pregnant.. if you want to have the baby and keep it, he should play a role in its life.
you also gotta be honest with your girlfriend. you are only 16. it's ok to make mistakes. it doesn't necessarily make you a bad person. i'm sure she will be hurt, but if you really do love each other, then you should be able to fight thru this and repair your relationship.
as far as your parents. well, if you feel comfortable talking to them about sex, sexuality, and pregnancy, then tell them. if not, see a councillor at school and they can help you decide what your next steps need to be..
2007-02-21 17:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have see that no one is acctually giving you good advice i dont think mine will be any better but any idea might work. in the first place you should tell your parents they will findout one way or another they need to know because they can help. as for the pregnancy tell them that you are pregnat but you dont love the guy it was just a really big mistake and talk it over with your girlfriend but if i was her i would have a hard time forgiveing you. and you also got to see into yourself why you selped with this guy and ask your self if he can help you with this child.
2007-02-21 14:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by cosita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you still desire men should tell you something. There is no such thing as bisexuality. It's a choice all around. Some people choose to be homosexuals as well. You desire men because that's how you were designed. You have been comfortable and secure with sin. We all sin, I sin as well but I am not comfortable sinning, and so I repent and I am forgiven. You should turn away from your sin as you are finding out that you are making a mess of your life. Only God can give us peace about our pasts, when we turn to manmade remedies we go deaper and deaper down the dead end street. God loves you and will accept you and your unborn child with open arms if you accept him and what his son did for you.
2007-02-21 14:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by miriamadamswashington_01 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
With a little more thought you could have at least 4 or 5 more problems listed, like you have webbed toes and can't wear open toed shoes.
2007-02-21 14:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not trying to sound judgemental but that's what happens when you do stuff without thinking it through first. you need to tell your parents immediately. hiding it will only make things worse. they might be mad at first but i'm sure they want nothing but the best for you.
2007-02-21 15:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're in a heap of trouble...and could use some counseling...good luck
2007-02-21 14:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by Alecto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl!! you need help!
2007-02-21 14:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋