My husband and I have been together since we were 13. We Lived together right away (family issues) and we are now 23 and have a baby on the way. We rarely fight & have never had a break and are bestfriends. I really want to keep him around ( I don't think he's going anywhere) but I want to be so good to him and give him all he deserves. In a mans opinion ( and be serious ) what would you want in a wife?
2007-02-21 06:07:40 · 23 answers · asked by linz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just keep doing what you are doing. A man wants a best friend, a lover, a soul mate, and that naughty girl when the time is right. Just be open and yourself and it will be great.
2007-02-21 06:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Different men want different things. My answer may not match your husband's answer. I would say go through these answers together with your husband and have him tell you.
There's another layer to this question, also. What do I want vs. what do I want that I think is realistic. Like all people, I have wants that conflict with each other. For example, there is a part of me that really would love to have a wife that was a total doormat, that I could walk all over and she would never question anything that I did and never disobey and would be totally devoted to me no matter what... *but* (and my pastor will tell you that the important thing is always the part after the "but") I want a woman who is going to be a strong mother, confidant and capable of making decisions in my absense, and able to keep track of my appointments and life. The after-the-but and before-the-but are not compatible. The after-the-but is more important to me. So I'm going to give you two lists: my ideal woman in terms of what I think is reasonable and makes the most sense, and my ideal woman if I could reshape the whole world in my own image.
First, my real life ideal woman:
Defers to me in all decisions as head of household.
Capable and confident making decisions in my absense.
Strong role model for my son.
Protective of my son.
Takes good care of the animals.
Takes care to make sure I eat and drink. (I tend to forget.)
Takes care to make sure I sleep. (I tend not to.)
Makes sure I am sexually fulfilled within reason.
Doesn't panic when she sees me looking at another girl.
Doesn't mind hanging out with my family.
Has family I don't mind hanging out with.
Good cook.
Tells me when I'm wrong, privately.
Doesn't lie to me.
But like I said, if I could reshape the world to my will, I'd have a wife (or two, or three...) who were total doormats. They'd never question where I went, with whom, etc. She'd always asume that in any arguement or disagreement that I was right and she was wrong. She'd live in terror of me to the point where she could bearly speak in front of me, but love me too much to leave. But that's all fantasy. At the same time I'm marrying this girl, I'm also going to be fighting dragons with hand held nuclear handgranades.
2007-02-21 06:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off! Men don't want wives and if they do some women convinced him. With that understanding, the real question is how to I deceive my man into marrying me. Put him in a bind that you are his only option (leverage) and he will come running to you. Good luck!
2007-02-21 06:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by moralityisrelative1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the best person to decide. You have had a good life and honest relationship, so you know him better than anybody else in the world. you are best aware of his expectations. So try to meet them as much as you can. and, ofcourse, beware of the embarrasment accompanying sudden changes, even towards better. they might raise expectations your (or him) probably cannot meet.
2007-02-21 22:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by akkhod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who is not going to give me a hard time. A woman who is going to allow me make my own mistakes and help me ONLY AFTER I have asked for it. A woman who is cooperative, easy going, low maintenance, and supportive. A bonus would be a woman who makes me feel better about myself.
2007-02-21 06:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by eyedoc999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would have to ask every single man on the planet what they wanted. But that wouldn't pertain to you and your husband. The only way for you to know what HE wants is to ask HIM.
2007-02-21 13:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone that is honest and true, faithful. Someone you call tell anything and everything too. Someone who can make you laugh and is always there when you need them, also Sexual Compatibility in the bedroom does not hurt either.
2007-02-21 06:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by clints_wench 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please read Proverbs 31
also, please look into getting the book, Communication, Sex and Money the author is Edwin Louis Cole. You will be very pleasantly surprised at the outcome in your marriage.
Respect him unconditionally. If he upsets you, ask him if you have been disrespectful to him at all.
Respect does not come easy to us as females.
Love does not come easy for the men.
That is why God commands us to Respect them and for them to Love us.
2007-02-21 06:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by topsecretwrappers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every man I've ever known seems to want good food and lots of sex. They are fairly simple creatures.
2007-02-21 06:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just exactly what you just said you wanted to give your husband. And make sure he knows that is your intention too. Sounds great to me.
2007-02-21 06:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋