Where all your friends who were married started getting divorced?Did it make you fee strange?In my case my bf and i have been together a little over 6 yrs have a 3 yr old son .Everyone thought the relationship would never work because we are a strange match.But 6 of our married friends who seemed perfectly happy are now getting divorced after only a few years?It makes me feel weird especially when my bf brings up marriage?
2007-02-21 06:01:52 · 13 answers · asked by Leana D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry thats When!not where in the first sentence!
2007-02-21 06:02:48 · update #1
Divorces among friendly couples is like an epidemic. It makes people review their own relationships, and makes divorce seem like an acceptable option if "so and so" are getting a divorce.
Since you're not married, this doesn't apply to you. You and your boyfriend have basically skipped that step and are living together, having children. Though it seems that neither you or your friends understand the meaning of vows, marriage and commitment, right?
2007-02-21 06:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you go into a marriage, thinking it will end in divorce. Then you are probably right. Not every couple is the same. Too many ppl these days marry for the wrong reason's, therefore ending shorlty after in a divorce. I have been mariied going on 6 years. Ihave had times where I just want to throw in the towel and call it quits, but I dont. When I said I do..meant it. Not in that way, where some many ppl say it..and change their mind a few years down the road. A lot of ppl get sacred at the thought of marriage, it's normal. I was so scared the day I got married. I knew though, that I would be with him until the day I die. So, try not to let others around you affect how you feel. I know it seems hard, but it is part of life. I hope everything works out for you, and that when it comes down to it. You will know what the right thing to do is,. Good Luck!
2007-02-21 06:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to go through that sort of phase, because so many relationships fail. The statistics for marriage failure apply whether you've lived with your new spouse or not, and the divorces around you should give you pause for thought. Don't get superstitious or generally anxious; quietly apply everything you can learn towards making your relationship the best one possible. It's a risk for everyone who wants to get married, but the fact is some people DO stay together.
2007-02-21 06:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that you and your boyfriend are not those other people. Each couple is different. If you're happy together and not married after 6 years and 3 yrs old son later, then chances are you'll be happy married, too.
2007-02-21 06:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid of marriage just because it doesn't work out for some people....you guys have been together for a while and have a child...you have made it through that, so you can probably make it through anything!! Marriage is a great thing that everyone should experience...there is not telling whether it will work out or not, so you just have to do everything in your power to make it work...
2007-02-21 06:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don`t be afraid to talk marriage. It can be great! If you`ve been together 6 yrs. unmarried and have a son, then you`ll be great married. Don`t listen to what "EVERYBODY" says. Only the two of you know for sure what is right.
2007-02-21 06:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People give up to easily and the killer of all relationships is the lack of respect from women towards their men and the lack of men expressing their love verbally. Relationships go into a crazy cycle and all hell breaks loose. People live to much by emotions and feelings which reap havoc with relationships. They live by assumptions and presumptions instead of using common sense and growing up and maturing in their realationships and being accountable to each other; they are on the defensive with one another. Wives go through their husbands pockets and personal things to catch their men out when nothing is going on etc. The mind is truly our worst enemy when it is focussed on feelings and emotions. It all but becomes a comfort zone to some.
Be happy yours is good, but dont compare - its dangerous. Work constantly on your relationship and simply show your man all the respect you can in the world and that means not bad mouthing him, criticising him openly or even at home, retaliating when he tries to tell you something or being defensive. Men want women who are confident and stable and good to them, respecting their wishes. When a wife does that she finds the man softens towards her and he will do anything for her too.
2007-02-21 06:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is different than your friends. From your questions it appears you and your boyfriend waited and are not rushing things. Seems like you friends rushed and then got to really know who they married. I have a married friend and out in public they are the happiest fkin people in the world, but at home I've never heard two people argue more.
2007-02-21 06:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by Tab 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-29 10:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are they weren't a good match to start. How long were they together before they got married. If you and your guy have been together and happy for 6 years chances are things aren't changing... Sometimes opposites are the best match. People that are just like you are boring!
2007-02-21 06:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by emce 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋