2007-02-21 05:54:48 · 18 answers · asked by bowmanhots 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What can you do? HIM. Just do it. Your desire will return once you start doing it.
(If your husband lost all desire to go to work, would you be willing to understand and support him sitting home all day until he felt his desire return, or would you expect him to do it anyway?)
2007-02-21 05:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to my doc if I were you. Sex drive for women is mostly driven by hormones, so maybe you're having some fluctuations or an imbalance. Also, if you don't exercise much, exercise is about the best sex drive boost you can do. You don't even have to do much, just dance around the house to your fave music for half an hour while you're vaccuuming or something and your sex drive will go up for sure. If you don't have any depression issues or anything like that, then I would say try the exercise first. Also, sometimes I don't feel all that into sex if I don't feel like I look my best, so maybe you can try to put a little more time into doing things that make you feel and look your best, like buy a new outfit or sexy new panties or get a mani/pedi, whatever it is. If worse comes to worse.... just have sex anyway. Acting AS IF can initiate feelings. Sometimes if you're not all that horny, but you go along with your husband's advances, you'll get into it before you know it and who wants to miss out on an orgasm just b/c of some dumb old hormones anyway! :-)
2007-02-21 06:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The loss of sexual desire is usually the result of a problem. Are you under stress? Severe change in your diet? Self esteem issues? Are you still close to your husband?
The best thing to do is talk to your husband and tellhim that you are "not feeling it" right now and to be punderstanding. Having that pressure of pleasing him removed can help as well.
If the feelings (or lack of them) still continue, you may want to talk to a psycologist to try to find the root of your lack of desire.
This happened to me w/ a boyfriend of 5 years. we loved each other very much, but I lost my desire. I later found out, that even though I loved him, I was seeing him more as a friend than as a lover and my desire reflected that. Our relationship ended up dissalving.
As long as you talk to your husband and discuss this openly with him, you will have his support and try to find a solution together.
Good luck.
2007-02-21 06:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by zkiwi2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Between a paid sitter, a relative / friend watching your toddle, naps & insuring your children don't sleep with you guys there should be plenty of opportunities for romance. Your toddler should already been on a schedule and probably in bed by 8:00 - 8:30 p.m., leaving you guys plenty of time to get after it or just enjoying each others company free of children (get a baby monitor and put a lock during periods when you are being intimate). Like others have suggested, try to be more assertive in the bedroom. It is a turn on for a guy to have his wife be the one to initiate sex (makes us feel wanted). The other aspect of though is simply being stressed & tired, which is probably affecting his sex drive. Not only does he have work full time, he has to come home to a child (who demands his time) & a pregnant wife (who also probably demands his time). That's a lot for a guy to handle and many men buckle under the pressure / responsibility.
2016-05-24 03:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys need to try some creative lovemaking and explore "new" ideas, that is as long as it is mutually agreed. Sometimes things get to be routine and mundane and need to be revitalized to put the sparks back in.
2007-02-21 05:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your hormones checked. Menopause can do strange things to sexual desire. SHow him respect and mybe it will come back.
2007-02-21 05:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me when I was depress. Go see a Doctor you could be depress.
2007-02-21 06:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by maggie209 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor. It could be stress, fatigue, or hormonal imbalance causing it.
2007-02-21 05:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should got and see a gynecologist and explain your situtation to them and they should be able to help you with your problem.
2007-02-21 05:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is it never you?isnt always something-like migraine,menopause,menses,the other man,depressed,stressed,the weather?
2007-02-21 06:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by 2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋