I can't do it anymore!!!!?

Question

i'm a 15 year old girl and my life is crazy. i have to keep my room clean, and do other chores around the house, take care of the animals and clean up after my sibs, going to church (hlping in pre-school class) and other youth group activities.i'm being homeschooled (one of those teach yourselves things, both parents work) Biology, World History, and Algebra 2. I'm dual enrolled at the community college and take World Religions, College Composition, and Word Processing there. I am playing softball (1-2 practice, 2-3 games a week), and i'm in drama and dance goups for my church ( a competition for the arts that we are entering is coming up),not to mention keeping up with friends in othr states that are wondering why i'm not writing back to them ultra quick, and then spending time with my family and working with my Dad for his buisness and babysitting for everyone and their brother. it's too much and i'm falling behind.i love everything that i do, but i can't take it anymore.suggestions?

Answer 1

Wow!! You certainly are a little busy! Maybe a little too busy. I understand that you enjoy all of these things, and it seems to be important to you to be all things to all people. My suggestion, is to be true to yourself first. Make yourself a priority list, now you should be number one on the list, so the rest of the list, you need to decide what things are most important to number 1. You may have to eliminate some things for this time in your life, until you have more time in the future. I think its great to have such an active life, full of friends, family and faith, but I think its important for you to slow it down a little bit too. You have the rest of your life ahead of you, at times when we are adults, we can't control the "hecticness" when we take on jobs and family. But at your age, I think you owe it to yourself to take some time to relax, have fun, if you are so overwhelmed with all of these things that you enjoy, you will wind up resenting them. Take them in small doses!! Stop and smell the roses along the way!!!

Answer 2

Wow. You sound like my daughter. She's 17, very smart and talented, and tends to take on too much- the same things you are involved in. Most of what you mention is just life- things most people have to do. The fact that you homeschool probably makes it a little easier since you're free to manage your time as you need to. ( I homeschool my children)
The one thing I see you could probably let go of is the dual enrollment in the community college. Do you really need to do that at this time in your life? College will be there when you're through with highschool. And you will probably be more successful at it if you're not so stressed trying to be a teenager and an adult at the same time. You might also consider either working for your dad, or babysitting, but not both.
Sounds like you have a full life. Enjoy it as much as you can, and hang in there!

Answer 3

Stop! Do only what is absolutely necessary. Schoolwork is priority. Church is, too, but you may need to cut down on some of those activities as well. Softball, drama, and dance are too much. Pick one of those and drop the other two. Lay off the babysitting.

You're a teenager. You need to enjoy this time, not stress yourself out! You want to look back and remember it fondly. In 10 years, drama and dance won't mean a lick to you. Figure out what's most important. Fill your jar with the big things, then let the little ones slide in around it.

Answer 4

Set up your boundaries. I agree adolesents have too busy of scheduals today. If I were you or if i may say your father. I would help you eliminate alot of your activities. Stop babysitting that would help you alot. Tell your dad your feelings and tell him that you are not able to help as much with his work. Hopefully he will understand. finish with your church drama and dance once the competition is over but speak to your youth leader and let him know where you are coming from. And last but not least do not make excuses for any of these things. Excuses will only make the situation worse. Like I said in the begining set up your boundaries and guard yourself.

Answer 5

This sounds like me but i quit church i was in the choir and everything now i have 2 jobs, cheerleading, pets, chores, and i'm passing my classes not with great marks but good enough because i know i did my best just do the things you love thats what i do and take applied subject if the others are too much. i went from acedemic to applied its not embarassing or anything because you just tell people i wanted to get honour roll easy :) hope this helps

Answer 6

it seems to me that you want to help everybody. unfortunately as we are living in the real world you need to prioritize want your needs are Personaly i feel that school work is more important than church work that only needs to be done on a Sunday. So that leaves 6 days to cram in everything else . schoolwork is 5 days Monday to Friday. So hey presto this leaves you with a clear Saturday to do your thing. Mum & Dad can look after the sibs which leaves you to go town and be with your friends
Need I say more. ( Lorna)

Answer 7

just think, the qualifications will get you decent work and pay and you can get out of living at home and have a life.

id honestly just concentrate on studies at the moment and when you can earn a few quid with babysitting or something. that's enough for a 15 year old.

you shouldnt have to do half the things you are doing, your parents have the responsibility for looking after reletives and pets.

you dont want to mess up your studies so please for a better life, just stick with that.

Answer 8

BREATHE!!! Talk to you parents and tell them that you can't do it all. Tell them you need a break. You need to decide which things you want to do, which things you need to do and then let some of the others go. If your parents are to stricked you need to talk to another adult b/c at this point you are heading for a breakdown and instead of completing all of your goals you will end up a burnt out broken person and will never get anywhere. Sounds like you need help fast. Please talk to someone and not on the internet, someone face to face that can talk you through this. Good luck.

Answer 9

Sit down with your parents and set the Goals of your life. I mean prioritize your Goals. It seems like you have burnt out. You do not have to quit many activities. Sometimes better time management and breathing exercise increases your productivity.

Good Luck

Answer 10

It would be best to prioritize. Make a list of the things that you HAVE to do, then after that right things down that you like, but don't necessarily have to do. Then from that list picka few of the things that you like to do best and cut some things out. I know it's hard being 15. I think it's too early to be this stressed out.