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2007-02-21 05:47:59 · 34 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a friend said this, and i did disagree, but i wanted other opinions
2007-02-21 06:24:54 · update #1
analogy... can you cover up a stain on your shirt with another stain... sure...
I have tried that... it doesn't work... look to get over someone you have to accept that they hurt you... feel the pain... let it all out... feel it somemore...
it is just like morning... morn the loss then let it go... greive... and get over it...
2007-02-21 05:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by AvidBeerDrinker 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that is absolutely false.
Finding someone new to console you when you've just come out of a broken relationship is a rotten way to get over it. I say that because you need time to recover, and mourn your loss, and get your bearings again. That means time as a singleton.
When you get involved with someone else, even casually, you tend to completely forget your other problems. That doesn't solve or resolve anything--it puts it on hold.
There are all sorts of issues when a relationship dies. It's like the death of a person, really. You need time to mourn properly, and get your head straight, before you jump back into a relationship with anyone. If you don't, the bad stuff just comes back later to haunt you. A person should always try to enter a new relationship with as little baggage as possible. It makes it easier for you, and for your new love.
2007-02-21 05:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the fast and fun way of doing it. There's a reason why rebound sex exists. It's sort of like small portions of sorbet between the courses of a large, multi-course meal. It cleanses the palate so that you are ready for the next course. Rebound sex also boosts your confidence and lets you know that you are still desirable, which can be crucial after a bad breakup. Because it's pretty much meaningless, you can be pretty much uninhibited during rebound sex. Swing from the light fixtures, bark like a dog, whip out the salad oil and bunny ears if you feel like it. And with rebound sex, there are no emotional strings attached. Just boink and go (or bun and run). No fuss, no mess, NO DRAMA.
2007-02-21 05:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that a lot of people buy into this. In reality, if your heart is really broken, and it wasn't just a 1 or 2 month fling, you need time to heal.
I feel the worst possible thing you can do after having a heartbreak is to go out with whoever just to fill in the blanks. Chances are you will just debase yourself and your already beaten up self esteem will drop even lower.
Much better to go through the heartbreak and healing processes and proceed cautiously to the next relationship.
2007-02-21 05:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need someone else to get over a break-up. I've been there, done that, and sometimes my emotions were still so focused on the break-up that I didn't even give the new guy a chance. So no, I believe in letting yourself heal and giving yourself time to realize what people should love about you for being you.
2007-02-21 05:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think getting over someone is go and get under someone else. it's called a rebound when you just come out of a relationship and start messing with someone else. i think it backfires on you later cause it may be fun for awhile but soon after you realize that your not ready to get serious and then the other person will get hurt. so it's just best to wait awhile before getting involved or under anyone new.
2007-02-21 05:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is my ex-roomates motto :) But if you take her for an example, its not true, b/c you will never get over that person you will just keep moving from person to person and never finding your self or figureing out why things didn't work. I think you should take some time between break ups but it does make it easier to forget someone when you find someone else. Unfortunately Sex with someone else won't make you forget the person you had feelings for.
2007-02-21 05:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wrong!!!! In order to get over someone, you have to do some soul searching in order to know what it is that you really want in life. Anyone who says "He/She makes me so happy" is fooling themselves. In reality, you are responsible for making yourself happy, sad, angry, whatever the emotion. ONLY when you realize that you allow others to make you feel the things you do, that's when you are able to function in life without the thought that you have to have someone else.
In order to get over someone else, you take the positive with you, look back and smile, remember the negative that you didn't want and make sure you change those things so that you don't repeat / allow the same mistakes in future relationships.
Remember.... everything we are is because of those we have allowed in our lives and the relationships we have formed.
2007-02-21 05:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course its easier to get over someone when you have someone else to focus on. But if you find a hobby and or something you enjoy doing it think it could help just as much. I broke up with my ex after being with him for 3 years and i started going and golfing more ofter, thats how i meet my current fiancee but it wasnt just him it was also the fact that i had something to do that i enjoyed doing, good luck
2007-02-21 05:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes getting a new interest will distract you from missing someone, but I think time is the only thing that heals this situation. Lots of people jump into rebound relationships out of loneliness and end up very sorry. It isn't fair to the new person, either.
2007-02-21 05:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not true. I got divorced 3 years ago, and at that stage you are looking for the rebound person. You will never have a spiritual connection with that person and all they are is a selfish distraction to you. Unless that other person is fully aware of their status, you are in a sense lying to them. It's best to distract yourself with a hobby like RPG gaming, sport activity or something to keep the blues/depression away and stimulate production of endorphins to keep you happy. It might make you feel good for the moment, but later you will have regrets or self-loathing for being so... uninvolved... for lack of a better word.
2007-02-21 05:55:04 · answer #11 · answered by CNuxoll 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋