I mean, i know it could work but it seems a little risky.
2007-02-21 05:43:58 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it depends on the couple. I would have no qualms getting engaged after 6 months - I usually know after about 3 months whether or not I want to be with this person, and so 6 months is plenty of time. But someone prone to making bad decisions should probably take longer.
2007-02-21 05:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon how long you plan to be engaged? Engagement is a promise to marry. It doesn't mean you're getting married the next day. The time between engagement and marriage is the trial period to give each of you a last opportunity to make sure that you really care for each other enough to spend a lifetime together. It also means that you are off the market with no playing around. Engagements can last weeks, months, or even years(for example - if you both are in college and wanting to get your degrees first). It is a promise of commitment just short of making your union legal and binding. There is nothing wrong with if you are both sure of taking this step towards sharing a life together.
2007-02-21 05:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I am not married, but I have seen it happen time and time again. Yes, I believe getting engaged after only 6 months is not such a good idea. Yes, it is going to be risky no matter what, but you need to get to know that person and make sure that they are the "one" for you. Getting engaged/married too soon is generally a bad idea. Most couples who marry within a year get divorced within that time frame also. Just think about it, and do what you feel is right. I cannot stress that enough. You need to do what is right for you and your significant other. If you are having doubts, then I would say it is too soon to get engaged. Just think about it, and hope it helps!
And whomever said that they are a firm believer of living with someone before marriage is wrong. You should not live with
someone until you are married, or do anything else of that nature for that matter, but those are just my personal opinions. Don't let them damper you from reading and understanding the top portion of my comment.
2007-02-21 05:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It could depend on how long you've known her. I knew mine for a couple years before we started dating, and then we were dating for 7 mos before he proposed. Then we were engaged almost 3 years. So maybe getting engaged with the idea of waiting a little bit before you get married is a good idea. Or not. Sometimes you just know, and noone can tell you whether it is right or wrong. Some couples evolve faster than others, so there can't be another judge besides to two of you.
2007-02-21 06:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by whitanay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know the person before this? If not, I say don't get married until you have known the person for one year. There's a saying 'things change with the seasons'. Stay together for one year and see how each other is throughout the different seasons. Sounds a little corny, but I did it and I've been married 3 years.
Besides, if you love each other, want a future together, what is it to wait another 6 months. It's just more time to get to know each other better and make plans for the future. I'm assuming you're still young and have time to spare.
2007-02-21 05:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by cajun24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't the length of the engagement but what you do in that time and what you talk about. If you got engaged and then just talked about planning the big wedding, then ten years isn't long enough. If you've discussed finances, children, religion, residence, parent visits, employment, sex, holidays, lifestyle, pets, furnishings, Christmas, growing old, negotiating arguments - then you'd be fine after one week! When I met my first husband, we were passionately, crazy-in-love kids and we talked about the "big day" and just had fun for 2 and a half years. The marriage lasted 6 years after we realized we disagreed on how to discipline kids, how we spent our leisure time (his idea was dump me with the kids while he golfed), how to manage money.... when imet my second husband, he was a FRIEND - a brother of a galpal - and we talked about EVERYTHING. We spent time together, shopped together, talked about past relationships we had with family and "ex's" - only on a positive way, though, no hasrh criticism, more about what we felt we did wrong - all of a sudden we realized we were perfect for each other, got engaged and got married 7 weeks later. Next week is our 35 wedding anniversary and it's still going strong! There is a great little book available through Amazon called "Before you say I Do" by a female marriage commissioner/psychologist.(Nomi Whalen) It lists hundreds of questions for you to talk about. Boy - if you agree on 70% of them, you will last forever!! Good luck.
2007-02-21 05:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a 50-50 man. Ist ime married within six months was a disater. This time engaged after 6 months and married just after is great so it relly can go either way. If I had done what my brain told me the first time and not my heart I would have called it off so go with what your brain tells you. If in doubt give it a miss.
2007-02-21 06:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isn't everything you do in life risky. sometimes you just know that is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. people who dated years before the got married are no longer together. so i say take a chance on love be honest with each other and hope everything works for the best
2007-02-21 05:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by janiebug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not yet! Generally it's a bad idea. But I dated my husband for only 4 months before we were Marrried! And we have been together 40 years!! I DO wish I had known what lay ahead of me with his nosy family though. I saw signs when I met them before we were married but I didn't do anything about it. So maybe that says we should have waited longer until we straightened his family out though. Good Luck!! @8-) She could be your soul mate or the worst mistake you ever made! It's your call!!
2007-02-21 05:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that being engaged is showing a commitment to one another and being exclusive with each other. Engaged is not married and does not mean you have to get married. You can have a long engagement and still get to know each other better before tieing the knot.
2007-02-21 05:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋