No. One does not suddenly become gay. Either your friend suppressed her lesbian desires or she's bisexual.
2007-02-21 06:58:48
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answered by jasgallo 5
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What a coincidence! I also have a close female friend almost same problems with yours except she have 2 children and a single mom. I've known her for 6 years but never doubt her sexuality coz she have strings of male relationship but the sad thing is they wouldn't last long,some of them last only few months. One day she called me up and told me she will prepare dinner for me since we haven't seen each other for a while coz of her datings. Then I was surprised when she opened the door,completely shocked me to see her hair cut very short like a barber cut of a man and her outfit turn into a guy costume instead of seeing wearing mini-skirts. Then she show me the picture of her new found girlfriend. I said. Are you kidding me,she reply,no i'm quite serious and i said what happen? Then she starts telling me she hates guys and already fed up and promised she would never date guys anymore because they don't take her seriously. I was so confused and told her, are you sure you never have a girl relationship before she said never. But still wondering up to now. It's not that i didn't believe her but really bothered me coz i think she's just depressed or what? I don't care if she's a lesbian but she wouldn't admit it. She said she's doing this for fun. What a life? But i do care about her. Just let them be who they want to be,as long as it wouldn't affect our friendship with them. Lol,good luck!
2007-02-21 06:14:43
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answered by javo 3
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it is possible for her to finally realize that she is gay because, as you said, she left her parents home and lost touch with old friends, so now, without the pressure of all her friend's and family looking down on homosexuality, she was able to find her true self and how she personally felt about the issue.
i wish your friend all the best.
(in response to what "David H" said about being gay being a "lifestyle choice"---you seriously need to just SHUT UP. Did you make a life-style choice to be straight? No, you were born that way, right?! DON'T YOU DARE SAY THAT BEING GAY IS A LIFESTYLE CHOICE UNTIL YOU HAVE YOUR GAY BEST FRIEND CRYING ON YOUR SHOULDER THAT THEY DON'T WANT TO BE GAY B/C OF HOW MEAN PEOPLE CAN BE. That is exactly what I went through with one of my best friends...don't you think he would just make a different choice if he could?!)
and Tracy who says "It's Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve", I assume that if you believe the earth was populated by only Adam and Eve, then you are a firm supporter of incest?
Never thought about it that way, did you? Yeah, so why don't you stop saying stupid things like that. Oh, and that God HATES gay people and their lifestyle?! God doesn't hate! You're an idiot...seriously. You don't know what being a Christian means---it means that you love and accept everyone. You probably don't really know any gay people, so how would you know if it's a choice or if it's something you're born with?! People like you make me sick...absolutely sick.
2007-02-21 05:41:27
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answered by Sofia Aleka 2
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Yep... Latent Homosexuality (as that's widely standard) can take place later in existence. some people do no longer attain maturation untill they're nicely into thier 20's or perhaps later. often times adult males "form of" be attentive to deep down thay are gay, yet via kinfolk tension, peer tension, concern (of many stuff) they bury the sensation, handle a hetrosexual dating and stay the lie for some years formerly realising that they could desire to be real to themselves, and then... Years right into a marriage and kinfolk, they could desire to return out. Your buddy could nicely be gay... yet even then, i think of an excellent sort of his tenting it up,, is probably basically his installation in withthe people he works with. seem at me ! I act like an entire prick each so often, because of the fact I paintings with police adult males on celebration. (comedian tale)
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answered by poehlein 3
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She is fine...one of the benchmarks of many gay people is that they " Hate" people like them through some twisted line of reasoning...they become homophobes...actual afraid of themselves, lead miserable lives. Be happy that she found her way out of that mess, can lead a life now where she likes herself and can be loved and love. She didn't "suddenly" become Gay, she has been Gay her entire life, and just now accepts it and is living as she wants. It is just fine. This is NOT the result of any bad experiences, it is simply the way she was born.
2007-02-21 05:57:54
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answered by Anonymous
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People need to stop worrying about how those who are living a "gay" lifestyle got to that point because that fact is...it doesnt matter what matters is that she is happy at this point....who cares weather she was gay and repressed it ....she has the choice to live the life that she currently is living....we can do what we want....Has she always felt gay ?..Is this a phase?...again doesnt matter ...what matters is that she currently happy...I work with lesbians alot and I see quite a few over the years who are married ...and started to date women.....we are too caught up with labels and it needs to stop....choose ,born gay,bi?..doesnt matter......we are free to do what we want..
2007-02-21 06:06:27
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answered by Anonymous
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One doesn't suddenly become gay. There is no choice involved. I think she was probably doing what most people like her do...they know that they are just faking it heterosexually (or they can't face it) and keep trying to prove that they are straight. Until one day it becomes too difficult to maintain that facade.
2007-02-21 06:23:12
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answered by Anonymous
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I know it is possible.
I knew of a man who was married, had children, then realized his true sexual orientation, divorced, and maintains a good relationship with his first family.
Also, a woman who was married, had an amicable divorce and is now lesbian.
I would support a friend of any sexual orientation I don't think it is my place to judge or comment on their sexual preferences.
2007-02-21 05:44:23
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answered by Pacifica 6
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It isn't suddenly turning gay, it is suddenly stopping fighting it. If she is gay now, and comfortable with it, she always was, she just had to fight it because her peers told her she had to. If she is your friend, support her no matter what her decision is. If you don't then you are not and never were her friend.
2007-02-21 06:11:37
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answered by bocasbeachbum 6
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Nobody "turns gay". Who would want to, considering the abuse they have to suffer in this society?
She may have been gay all along, and was dating guys so people wouldn not suspect.
Or she may be bisexual.
Having bad experiences with men won't change her orientation.
2007-02-21 05:54:51
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answered by Robin W 7
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Homosexuality is a chosen, unnatural, abnormal, changeable, and perverted lifestyle, which is hated by God. If someone is gay and wants to be straight because they are being harassed or ridiculed, they most certainly can make that happen!No question about it.
It is a choice. Gays sometimes like to believe that they are a different species or something and pout when they are told otherwise. They feel that they are entitled to receive special rights because they believe that they are special beings. They are just confused people who need a reality check to become normal again. God did not create people to be gay. It's Adam & Eve not Adam and Steve. This is a perversion.
2007-02-21 06:46:32
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answered by Tracy 3
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