last night i look at the phone and i see wilma sitting on fred flinstone having sex, that dont seems right to me as his wife so we got into a arguement about it.he told me that i argue over stupid things, and he dont want me to search through his phone at all,he told to back off and go read the bible.and he told me if i want to get out of the house and leave him.every time we argue he alway say do what ever you want to do if you want to leave,leave.
2007-02-21 05:16:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are being petty. It's just a cartoon. Save your venom for when he actually cheats on you....you might need it because if you nit pick like this over petty things he will eventually get fed up and find someone else.
2007-02-21 05:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Forget the cartoon picture, it sounds like the bigger problem is perhaps he no longer wants to be in the marriage. If every time you have a fight, he's telling you to leave, that is a problem. People fight, that's a fact, but I think it's a mistake to leave or tell the other to leave unless you really mean it. Perhaps you guys could seek marriage counseling. And perhaps you can ignore the small issues (like the cartoon) and avoid going through his phone. He has to have "some" semblence of privacy - so do you - but with that comes trust. It's just a cartoon, if he had text messages from other women, then that would be different. Good luck.
2007-02-21 13:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's just a cartoon so I think you overreacted. It also sounds like your husband a) knows you won't leave so feels okay telling you to leave if you don't like something or b) actually wants you to leave. I had an ex that treated me that way because he could get away with it. I think he's right that you're arguing over nothing. It's not as if you found a naked picture of him with some woman! It sounds like you've got some insecurity issues and couples counseling could help you deal with them. Hope this helped!
2007-02-21 13:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe how many people said this wasn't a big deal. It is a big deal. Maybe the cartoon isn't the problem but, it's definately a symptom of the problem.
He's willing to defend is cell phone and his porn before defending his marriage? His wife being offended doesn't give him a moment of pause? He's worried about what you're going to see in his phone? Sounds to me like he's got other things going on that are more important to him than you. I believe I'd be seeing a counselor.
The one thing I'll give him. He told you to read the Bible. That sounds to me like something in that Bible is threatening him. God is convicting his heart about what's going on.
If my wife saw ANYTHING on my phone and was this offended by it, I'd have to take a serious look at what I was doing to offend her instead of blowing off crap about, "it's just a cartoon."
2007-02-21 13:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Better Fred and Wilma than a real girl and guy having sex. But as far as him not letting you see whats on his phone, that's a red flag telling me hes got something to hide.My husband lets me see his phone and i let him see mine.Sounds like hes already doing something if he tells you to leave.
2007-02-21 13:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Scarlet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't see the big deal about the cartoon...and it sounds like your husband is just feed up with your arguing to say that you can just leave if you want to leave. A good man is hard tyo find and if you have one you need to pick your battles and not fight over every little thing, such as cartoon sex. If you really
can't trust him than maybe you should move on or get over it. Hope this helps!
2007-02-21 13:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by *♥Tarita♥* 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your problem seems deeper than a Fred Flintstone picture on his phone. It's good that you let him know how you feel, and disagreements happen, but if such a heated argument occured because of a cartoon on his phone, you should probably seek a marriage counselor.
2007-02-21 13:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like there's more going on in your marriage then a cartoon on his cell phone. You too need to sit down and a have serious heart to heart talk.
2007-02-21 13:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is telling you that you can leave every time you have a small argument, then that nasty cartoon is the least of your worries. It sounds like he may have some rage issues, and you guys should really think about getting help if you want this marriage to work.
2007-02-21 13:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You should pick your battles and a cartoon shouldn't be one of them. It sounds like u might be criticizing alot, if your in it this 4 the long haul learn to love the annoying little faults or you will drive yourself crazy.
2007-02-21 13:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by bobbie_jo45 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋