You have recently married a person with an ex (who they insist that they hate) and are going through their photo album. You discover lots of pictures of their ex, some of them with the ex in either very skimpy clothing or their underclothes. You also find pictures of the ex with their kids, which you have no problem with, you have a problem with the ones with just the ex alone. Your spouse says that they are keeping the pictures for their kids, your response is that they don't need to see their parent dressed that way and insist that the photos of just the ex are destroyed.
Are you right to insist that they destroy the photos or is it none of your business? Should you have to live with those photos in your home?
2007-02-21 04:56:44 · 11 answers · asked by mark my words 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In my opinion, the kids do not need to see pictures of the parent in under clothes. All other pictures I think would be ok because they are pictures of the kids' parent. The kids deserve to have pictures of the parent who is not with them all the time. If the pictures are appropriate for the kids then I would say keep them all others I would see get rid of.
2007-02-21 05:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by V H B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a good question. I can also add in the intimate movie that was made while they were married. To watch or not to watch is the question? My fiancee has a few pictures and a couple movies of his Ex that wouldn't be kept for the boys, she took all those hand me down photos with her when she walked out on them. I did ask him what he was saving them for. I had intimate movies, a few sex photos of my own when I divorced, even though I never cared to watch them I still had them in my possession but when I got engaged and moved in with my fiancee I didn't bring my old personal life in with me, I destroyed everything. I've never asked him what he did with their movies, it really is none of my business, for that is his past and she is his Ex, if he wanted her as he did in the photos and film I'm sure she would not be the Ex. I think of it like a trust and honesty we have with each other.
2007-02-21 05:19:28 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Destroyed...no. But they can be given to the child's maternal grandparents for safekeepping if in fact they are for the child. Or perhaps you can sneakily take an 'interest' in preserving the precious photos by volunteering to take all the photos and make a special photo album for the kids. You'll come across helpful when in fact it'll give you the opportunity to collect and remove all the photos meanwhile looking like a hero for taking an interest in the kids.
2007-02-21 05:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it isn't wrong or right it's how you feel about it. My new husband didn't have any hard copy pics of his ex but he did delete some stuff off the computer saying 'don't need to be reminded of that anymore'(2 pics and some old emails and poem type things) but I didn't demand it, didn't even know he had them so he could have kept them and I wouldn't have known. I don't think however that your new spouse hates their ex. Even tho my husband has said really nasty things about his ex and has said he hates her, never loved her, etc. I know it isn't true. He was hurt and so he lashes out with these things and although I don't doubt his love for me or that he doesn't love her anymore I also don't believe he hates her. Hate is a huge word to throw around. Just a thought =) Don't worry about it, this person is with you now! They chose you!!! Be happy and enjoy your marriage!!
Take Care and Be Happy!
Tori
2007-02-21 05:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Incognito 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He tries to no longer disrespect you with those issues? No honey, he's entire violation and that's time to your guy to be a guy and positioned his ex out of his existence. became there a clarification why the two one in each of them broke up? ARe there young little ones in contact. if so, she has a maximum appropriate to be in his existence to an quantity. Your husband could be the nicest individual interior the worldwide yet each physique has an excellent line which you do no longer flow or enable everybody else to flow and that's protecting their spouses by utilising all skill needed. His ex is a lot out of line and he's ordinary with of that she is and perchance he's afraid to tell her to give up out of worry that she could go away his existence....
2016-09-29 10:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would make the person get rid of those photos. The kids don't need to see their mother naked.
2007-02-21 05:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are Major League insecure.
He's with you now. Let him have his pictures. They are his memories and you have no right to dictate what he does with them.
Suppose he asked you to throw out something that you didn't want to? You'd be pretty upset with him.
Get over it and appreciate the fact he's married to you.
2007-02-21 05:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't imagine why anyone would see a picture as a threat to a relationship.
2007-02-21 05:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are correct...Some photos need to be destroyed or returned
to ex...
2007-02-21 05:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a past and I would never suggest my partner erase it. It is part of who they are, part of why I would love them.
2007-02-21 05:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋