2007-02-21 04:41:55 · 16 answers · asked by My kids are my life!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Me and my husband have filed for divorce we have been sperated since Oct.I had an affair and he tried but the other guy was always in my ear telling me what I needed although now I realize it was not what I needed at all. Now I have realized I love my husband more than anything we were married for 13 years we have 2 kids together. My husband now has a grilfriend but I want him back so bad but he won't listen I know I should move on but I can't seem to do that he is my soulmate and I can't function without him .I have tried to tell him over and over and he said he tried and I didn't and I know that but I need him back so bad I love him and I almost feel like my life is not worth living without him does anyone have any suggestions on what to do to show him and prove to him that my love is true. I can't bear to live without him forever. Please help me I am lost without him and I need my soulmateback!!! Any suggestions I can't let him go!!
2007-02-21 04:46:41 · update #1
Sorry, dear, but it sounds like the damage is done. Have you ever been through what you put him through? Sometimes the betrayal is so deep that a person can never get past it. I think that if you really love him, you need to let him go. He's made his choice. Sorry to be so blunt, but you've made your bed and now you'll have to lie in it.
2007-02-21 04:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunate for you, when you finally made up your mind, he had moved on. Now, so must you. Move on. If he "really is" your "soulmate" then, there will come a time for you to be together again. Forcing someone is not the answer...(I would NOT want someone to be with me out of pity..and that's what he would be doing at this point)...You must accept the fact that he no longer wishes to be with you like you do him. You WILL survive, life DOES go on...you CAN make it without him...and I honestly don't think you are in "real, mature" love...because if you were, you would want him to ADD to your life...not BE it...
2007-02-21 12:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets look at where your marriage is now. Your husband felt he tried and you didn't, he has found someone else, now you plead for him to take you back, he refuses any attempts by you to work things out. Can you see where I am leading with this? You have only ONE option, and it is not an easy one, but it is your only one. You must stop the crying and the begging, stop any attempts of getting him back. As you see, from what you said this has not worked and has only driven him further away. You have to either tell him or write him a letter (without any signs of pleading) that states to him how you feel you have no other options but to let him go. You could say, "I have in the past tried to convince you of trying to work at our marriage and have failed to have you be willing to do so. And I see how trying to hold you against your will is something I am not willing to do. If you are ever with me it wouldl have to be because you want to not because I forced you. As much as I love you I have no other alternative but to let you go. I know this will not be easy, but with time I will make it. I do wish you the very best and I want you to know I have released you to live your life as you please and with whom ever you please. Take care & God Bless". Then as hard as it will be you must NOT call him or contact him in any way. Reason for doing this? First of all as time goes by, and he sees you have not called, he will begin to wonder about you and marvel at the strength you are showing. He will begin to regain the respect he lost for you. His interest in you and how you are doing will re-new itself.. By securing his freedom you give him time to miss you, to re think if he really does want to leave you. Usually by him just knowing he can leave, will make him want to come back. This is not easy for you to do, and he will test your strength from time to time. You must stand firm and show him you are serious. As i said, this is the only option you have left. My heart goes out to you and I know the pain of losing the person you love can be devastating. But know that if need be, you can move on, you really can! I am speaking from personal experience. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-21 13:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry...he cannotFORGIVE or FORGET the fact that you cheated.
Obviously...you were not thinking or you would NEVER have cheated on him. IT'S OVER!!! YOU WILL NEVER GET HIM BACK!!!!!
Sounds like the constant calls you make to him are called STALKING!!!!! GET HELP!!!!!
Leave the man to move on and find happiness with a GOOD woman who will treat him right.
2007-02-21 13:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by mom tree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Considering your prior questions, I can understand your confusion. Please try to resolve one issue at a time. Start with whichever one is your first/prime concern. If you're unable to resolve it for yourself, seek the appropriate professional assistance.
One is only capable of solving one problem at a time. DONT attempt to resolve e/thing in one breath. It only tends to multiply your confusion.
It sounds as tho it's no longer your choice. But rather his, and he seems to have made it. Try to put your life back together for the sake of YOU, and YOUR CHILDREN. Rather than trying to correct your foolish mistake. LEARN from it!
2007-02-21 12:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. You are the one who made the mistake in the first place. I think you should just wait. If he comes back to you then its meant to be. Since you left him thats the best thing you can do. Good luck
2007-02-21 12:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by *jA* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your self right! First and Foremost. Whether it be self healing, counseling, self help or whatever. You may never get him back, but the only way, is if you improve your state of mind, focus on you and your kids, and maybe he will come back.
2007-02-21 12:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you made your bed when you cheated on your husband so i don't blame him for not coming back to you its too late to cry over spilled milk he's got some one move on
2007-02-24 19:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take two aspirin and call me in the morning.
2007-02-21 12:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by Monica 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You blew it. Now suck it up.
Payback is a b i@tch, isn't?
2007-02-21 12:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋