Im finding it difficult to come to terms with the end of my relationship. it ended sudenly afrter a blazing row over next nothing after 5yrs of mainly happy times. we were both finding it difficult dealing with money troubles. i cant understand how you can love someone one day then throw them out change the locks, phone number, and stop all contact ?
2007-02-21 04:36:55 · 17 answers · asked by john 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry but it didn't happen over night this has been building for a while, money problems can always cause problems after some time, if you two really love each other then you two need to find time to talk and make an honest effort to work at it, and to start, you need to find good help that you both trust . after 5 years there has to be something worth saving, think of the good times as a start and build on it . it takes two to destroy and two to rebuild. if you can find the love and really want thing to work out it can be done but you both need to want the same thing. get some good help and good luck.
2007-02-21 05:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by skip3800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welll. to start off with you need love.....you are bitter right now because she has basically dumped your arsh....tough love time...right? SO now you don't want to have love as an option.
What you should be doing is jumping for joy right about now...(if you have no children with her)....since she has demonstrated to you that becasue of a little nothing she has bounced to the extreme and tossed you out! That's not the type of temperment you want in a woman...so I say again...jump for joy before you had children with her...the pain of a break-up will be significantly increased with the additional financial burden of child support payments, loss of 1/2 of your worldly goods etc....you think that you're hacked off now...you'll get hacked off every month you write another check for your children.
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Good luck
2007-02-21 04:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody needs love, it just seems to me that your partner took that "next to nothing row" really badly and probably couldn't face future life with you with such arguments. S/he owes an explanation and the two of you need to talk things over and figure things out from there. also sounds as if you are in shock and maybe in denial about your "5 yrs of mainly happy times". s/he may not have felt that way... thought of that??!!...
2007-02-21 06:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by stephanie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it wasn't love for one of you, but in the end we all like and need to be loved. Even if it's loving ourselves. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting & just be more careful about who you trust next time around.
2007-02-21 04:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money problems can end a relationship quicker then
anything. You said you had mainly happy times, well
maybe not !!
2007-02-21 04:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if that's what happened to you babes, den it defo wasn't over jus one blazing row...........your partner was probably thinkin of doin that for a very long time by the sounds of it. Good luck hun x x x
2007-02-21 04:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened, didnt just happen in a day. It was most likely something growing over time....As you said some money troubles may be just one item in the mix.
2007-02-21 04:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just realize it wasn't love... I hate when you find out the only person who was loving in the relationship is you. Sorry to hear that! I hope things work out for the better for you!
2007-02-21 04:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by *jA* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been building up; (s)he doesn't really love you any more and perhaps never did. I'm sorry you're having such a rotten time right now.
Forget this person and move on - I know it's not easy. Good luck.
2007-02-21 05:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Husker41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky one this how did money problems start was it both of you or just you don't understand sorry but love is everything and sometimes there's tough love good luck
2007-02-21 04:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋