Husbands who have to go out of town for training for his job.?

Question

I strongly believe husbands who work away from home for any period of time, to say the least the marriage is never the same. I have never wanted a husband who has to work away from home but he had to go away for a week
for some kind of training, he's still there. It's not or has it
ever been in my nature to handle this and quite honestly
I can't. I don't know how things will be but I know it will never be the same. My question is this for wives who
have to deal with this all the time, aren't you settling for a
half of marriage? (Of course I do not trust him, here or there.) Thanks for your opinions

As a matter of fact he did cheat on me about 6 years ago and I didn't trust him before and I don't trust him now. That's
something he did, and I'll never trust him
regardless. As for the self-esteem problem
well yeah.

Answer 1

he's only going away for a week and you don't trust him. what is your marriage built on? you have little security and independence for yourself. you gotta to get your life together and enjoy it while he's away! wives lives don't depend on anyone or anything. you gotta give him some credits and trust that he deserves. if you can't, your marriage is built on a shaky rock that will fall at any time. your mind creates the reality you live in. let go your insecurity and embrace the free time you have for yourself by learning new things, making new friends and just simply enjoy your life. after all, there is no guarantee that they will out live us or be faithful even when they're with us!

Answer 2

I personally wouldn't want to be in a marriage where my spouse routinely spends time away from home for long periods of time. But to have him "out of the house" every once in a while is actually nice. My husband probably spends a total of 2-3 weeks a year away from home if you put together all of his trips to see family, training workshops, trade shows, business trips and the like - and it's just about perfect. Next month he will be gone for a week for some work-related training, and I'm looking forward to having the house to myself. I'm just glad that it doesn't happen *too* often. And no, of course I don't feel that things "will not be the same" just because he will have been gone for a week; things will be the same way they've always been when he returns.

Answer 3

Going away for a week, to get job training is not the end of the world. Your marriage sounds a bit shaky, if it can't withstand a week apart. You also sound a bit shaky, to have such a hard time handling this. A man who is going to cheat doesn't have to leave home to do it. If your husband is trustworthy, then you need to get a grip. If he's not, what makes you think being at home is going to stop him from cheating? As to the "half of marriage" question, that is ridiculous. Ask the women who have husbands deployed in Iraq if they have half a marriage. A husband who travels occasionally for business is pretty much the norm.

Answer 4

This sounds like he may have given you a reason not to trust him. Not all men are out to sleep with every woman that comes along whenever their away from home. I had to work away from home off and on for a few weeks. During this time I always thought about what I had at home and how fortunate I was to have someone trust me.This alone was enough to keep me straight and not mess around. Maybe if you keep him happy at home then you will not have to worry about the times he is away.

Answer 5

How can you excpect to have a good marriage if you do not trust him? Has he ever done anything to make you not be able to trust him? My work required me to be away from my wife for a lot of time for two years and I never fooled around. It is possible not to be with the person you love constantly and nothing go wrong.

Answer 6

It is not uncommon for Husbands to have to go out of town on Business. The place they work requires it, and he has to work to take care of his Family. You say the Trust is gone, has he gave you reason to not trust him? We all want the "finer" things in Life and for our Children the best, but sometime sacrifices have to be made. If he has gave you reason to think hes cheating on you is another story. No Woman would put up with that, unless she's hit Rock Bottom and her self esteem is shot..

Answer 7

Its very common for a husband to have to go away for training, my husband is an air traffic controller and has had to go away 2 times for training, the first time was for 7 weeks, the second was for 4 weeks, here is my reccommendation- go with him, thats what i did, he takes me with him eveywhere he goes, that way we can still be together and have nothing to worry about. He married you, which means he loves you, so if you cant go, than have a little faith in him, dont worry!

Answer 8

You know, a week just isn't that long. If you can't be separated from your husband for a week than I think that's something that you need to deal with. He does not have a job that requires him to travel a lot. It would be very hard to find a job that didn't sometimes require someont to be gone for a week every once in a while. It sounds like you have dependancy issues.

Answer 9

I think the key to your statement is you do not trust your husband in general or here or there. That is something you have to work on with yourself. As far as working and traveling it is the nature of the beast. Most people have to do it. Work on the trust issues.

Answer 10

my husband has been away for the past 2 months for his job we never went through this before and we cant stand it, we do see each other on the weekends and i also go out to see him when i can,for us its not a permanent thing ,but its still very hard, i too cant see how someone would choose this lifestyle,but through it all i think our marriage has grown stronger and we are closer then ever