Why do people depend on sex so much to solve problems in the marriage? How could a couple limit their dependancy on sex to solve problems in their marriage?
I have seen in my own life and it seems apparent in the lives of so many that sex did not completely resolve all problems in marriage. However, sex does help two people to get used to each other so much so that when they start getting old and grey they may remain attached to each other.
What are some ideas or thoughts you might have on this?
2007-02-21 04:34:41 · 5 answers · asked by devotionalservice 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really appreciate the efforts to answer this question. I wasn't really satisfied with any of the answers. I was hoping to get at the fact that sex does tend to help a couple through some difficulties. However, sex can only do only so much. You can call sex a spiritual thing if you have to, but frankly, sex is also biological. Chemicals are affected in a person's body and of course their brain during sex. I'm just saying we can't expect to solve so many problems with sex. We need to limit the number of problems we have so that not so much is expected from the sex act.
We can work on problems and differences without sex either alone or the couple can get help from others. How do we know that the communication we have with our mate is adequate? One test could be how often their is argument and how often there is cooperation. Perhaps you can think of some other ways to test a couple's communication success.
2007-02-27 07:28:46 · update #1
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2007-02-27 07:29:21 · update #2
sex doesn't solve any problems in a marriage,if the marriage is good sex is great and a time of connection with each other that draws each other closer,the only thing that will solve problems is for two people to communicate with each other and not think of their own needs
2007-02-21 04:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they should "limit" their dependency on sex to solve problems. Sex is more than just a physical act. It is a spiritual act of intimacy. Even though we argued all day, we can still look at eachother in the eyes, let it go and say I love you. Sex isn't a shallow solution. It is a deep answer to shallow problems.
2007-02-21 04:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is men need sex to feel loved and women need love to have sex.
Many times when there is trouble in the marriage the sex is the first thing to go away.
2007-02-21 04:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree sex does not solve anything. As for as the get used to part, its just comfort. Once you have been with someone so long your just comfortable, so you tend to be around longer. Let me know when sex does solve problems, but in the mean time I dont think so...
2007-02-21 04:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by *jA* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like what "wussupmang" said.
2007-02-21 05:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋