I didn't mean to.We are good friends and get on so well together.I thought the flirting was just fun, I should have known.He asked me to marry him and like the awful person I am I laughed at him!!!!!!!!!
I really honestly and seriously thought he was joking!
And now I feel so terrible. I don't know what to do to make things right. I don't want to lose him as a friend.And if things aren't bad enough he is dealing with a serious illness in the family, and going through a bad time.
How can I make things right and go back to being the good friends we were without it being awkward?
2007-02-21 04:33:01 · 18 answers · asked by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Talk to your friend and let him know that there was a misunderstanding. Tell him that you thought that he was joking and you didn't know that he was serious. Be open and honest with your friend. You can also tell him that you want to continue to be friends and not let this situation affect your friendship. Reassure him that you will always be there for him, no matter what he goes through in life. You are not an awful person. You thought that he wasn't serious when he asked you to marry him. If all goes well, he'll accept your apology and you guys can still be friends. I hope my advice helps you. Best of luck.
2007-02-21 04:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lady S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is something in our male harmones that work completely opposite from how a womens logic works and, this is something I've had to come to recognition with at the crossroads of how life really works. You see, the way I see it, your intent was not to hurt anyone, and that guy took it all wrong and he obviously wasn't dealing with you as a true gentleman would, does and should. Please, don't feel bad, this is how life w -o-r-k-s out for some guys. I had a problem with that one to where I was reading things into a relationship that went beyond friendship. I learned that there was far more there than meets they eye, and I finally put my finger on it, being, that the only way anything can and will work between a male and a female is when those two people get to know each other, not jumping to conclusions and just ask, ask the right questions and don't guess, and that goes for both parties, the two, male and female. Trust me, a guy's field of perception in romance requires a long range of maturity, and it sounds like this guy you didn't mean to hurt lacks a great deal of that, maturity, and it sounds like you really didn't hurt him, he hurt you by his lack of consideration over how you really feel and think which he would have discovered had he really and sincerely taken the time to know the pace you engage in, in you life, in how you go about things and in how you intend to be treated and respected. I hope you feel better, and they call me Louie, the doctor of love and romance. Keep it to yourself, I already have a tight schedule filled to overflowing, I am filled to the brim with these types of questions that you asked, and I won't charge you a cent because you deserve flowers. Pop pop.
2007-02-21 12:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Honey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't. Not without it being awkward. No way around that. You completely shredded his masculinity. I almost never say this, but talk to him, apologize, maybe cry a few tears, then apologize again. You must make him understand that that moment doesn't define your feelings toward him even though that's what he believes right now. Make him understand he is important to you. Just not important enough to marry and that it's a huge leap from friends to marriage.
2007-02-21 12:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, apologize a lot. Explain to him that with the things that are going on in both of your lives, you didn't think that he would be seriously consider getting married. Let him know that you would rather keep your relationship where it is at until both of your lives are stable because neither of you need any more emotional rollarcoaster rides right now. Good luck.
2007-02-21 14:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Angela P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfull communication is the key. Be there for your friend when he needs you- he will appreciate you being there. Do you feel the same way about him- if so tell him how you feel- if not you still have to be honest with him. Maybe apoligize for laughing at him and tell him you were just caught off guard. good luck to you and by the way you are a real beauty- hope things work out for you
2007-02-21 13:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by brian g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never said if you would accept his proposal. I think what you need to do is sincerely apologize to him. Show some concern to the person with the serious illness, like a bouquet of flowers and a get well card. This will show him that you do care. Good-luck.
2007-02-21 12:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sherry, guilt is the feeling we get when we know we've done somthing wrong. The more you wait, the worse it can get. My promise to myself is when I realize I hurt someone, or went down the wrong path, I immediately stop, turn around, apollogize (sp) and explain.
So its best to sit down with him, apoligize and explain what happened. BE HONEST, tell him you only want to be friends, and are not romantically interested. Be prepared for him to walk away from you and not be friends.
Once you make steps to make things right, the ball is in his court, and respect what he chooses, even if it is to end your friendship. At least in your heart you will feel better. Good luck!
2007-02-21 12:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by JR 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't beat yourself up! Proposing to someone is serious business! How did he propose to you? If you slept with him, then he got the wrong idea! Men usually fall in love faster than Women! Buy him some flowers, go up to him, give him a hug, say you're sorry, and listen to what he has to say! You might have to cry a little, to get your point across! Men melt when they see a woman cry!
2007-02-22 11:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually wait for his family to overcome bad times or yours shall start . leave him and make new friends , such as me .
who may give you the right advise when you need it.
yes i am warning , otherwise too , you would be my fan as i warned you for things that may come unexpected.
tell him that it was not a joke but you would not marry him.
nothing awkward in a country like united states , i believe that
woman like you who think them self very sharp commit serious mistakes . have patience . have my word and see .
anyway i am telling for your benefit only.
dont feel terrible and donot marry him
or you shall be looking terrible ,
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2007-02-22 11:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by harsh v 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-02-21 12:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋