last night my hubby acidentally admited to doing drugs as far as im concerned its a verry big deal i mdont feel like it was a one time thing because every 6 months or so he does it again he thinks its no big deal but i do its some thing he could go to jail for and some thing we could lose our kids over he knows i dont like it and he always says hes done with it but it keeps happening i feel hurt and lied to and it doesnt seem to matter to him part of me wants to say screw him its over but the other part of me is going give him one more last chance we talked about it last night and he wouldnt say any thing other than its not a big deal not to worry about it and hes finished with it but i feel like i cant trust him and i wonder if our relationship can survive with out trust any advise?
2007-02-21 04:25:50 · 4 answers · asked by mommyofanangel06 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont know if rehab is an option it always one time every 6 months or so but its still a problem
2007-02-21 04:33:17 · update #1
Explain to him he has to chose your family, or the drugs. If it's something you could lose your child for it can't happen. If he needs help quitting, then get him into a re-hab program, and tell him he has to stay clean to be with you. If he refuses you have to do what's best for you and your child.
2007-02-21 04:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by booman756 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry sweety.. There is no "one last chance" in this situation.. rehab will not help because that person has to be WILLING to stop and obviously, he is not.
I have been down this road and chose to leave. Now I am the better for it.
Please consider getting out of the relationship BEFORE the day comes that he's high and takes you and the kids for a drive!!!!!
There is no stopping it if he feels it's no big deal or gives you the old worn line of "I can stop anytime" because he WON"T!!!
Giving him the option of the kids or the drugs will just make him go do it behind. NOTHING you do or say will change this and I am sooo very sorry for you. All the love in the world for him means nothing to him. Please go as soon as you can and do not regret trying to have a better life for Yourself and your kids.
2007-02-21 12:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by mom tree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how anyone can "accidently" use drugs. You either do, or you don't. Its a choice you make.
You must do what is best for your child and you. You are right to be concerned. Drugs can lead to financial devistation, health problems, not to mention if he "burns" a dealer, or pisses someone off they might go after you and your baby!
He makes his own choices. Tell him to stop using immediatly, stop associating with those people AND get help in a drug rehab program (this will be the hardest to convince him to do, because it is a hard thing to do!) If he doesn't, be prepared to leave. Call your parents, your friends, women's shelters, etc....
Let him know that you will help him, but only if he wants to change. Now its his choice, lose his family, or lose the drugs.
Good luck, God bless.
2007-02-21 12:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by JR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you get him to go to rehab?
2007-02-21 12:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋