Sex for the first time?

Question

Im a female that is going to be having sex for the first time. Is it going to hurt, I heard that some people bleed and that woman don't orgism their first time. Any pointers to help me out?

Im 23 years old

Answer 1

most women bleed when they have sex for the first time. This is because the hymen (a mucal membrane a couple of inches inside the vagina, with only a very small hole through it), generally tears during sex. Once it is torn, the hymen usually doe snot heal back to its original shape, and it should not have to tear again a second time, but occasionally ther will be little more pain and blood with subsequent sexual activity.

In other cases, somen women have decently large holes in their hymens (often from strethcing them with fingers or simply from physical activity and sports) so that no tearing occurs.

Some women will tell you that the first time hurts a lot; for some women it is practically unbearable. For others it's very little pain for a very short period of time.
If you are forutnate enough that the pain doesn't continue for a long period of time, then it is possile for you to orgasm, if both you and your partner are familiar enough with your sexual repsonses to stimulation, then you're even more likely to achieve orgasm.

Honestly, I believe that exploring your body with smaller things, (your fingers, your partners fingers or tongue, etc.) first will help you to know your body's responses to sex, and you will be better able to decide whether something is wrong when you actually do have sex (fingers are unlikely to tear the hymen, unless you actually do it on purpose)... Foreplay is also very important in general, as sometimes pain during sex comes form the woman's body not being properly relaxed. If the muscles in your vagina are tense, then when your partner tries to penetrate you, he will have to fight agains them, and that can hurt quite a bit. So, relaxation is very important.

Otherwise, just always communicate with your partner, take it slow (very, very slow), and don't feel guilty if you have to stop because of the pain, or if you're just uncomfortable for any other reason. Never push yourself further than you want to go; you'll always regret it if you do.

Answer 2

First of all (I'm getting my nagging mother head on here!) make sure you have contraception options well and truly covered before you commit to a sexual relationship.

Secondly, make sure the decision to have sex is right for you and that it is what you really want.

Next, don't panic! People have been doing this for millions of years, the first time can be stressful but it depends on how prepared you are.

Set the scene, make sure you are in a comfortable environment where you feel safe and where you won't be disturbed. Relax - it's the ability to relax which will determine whether or not your first time will hurt. The more relaxed and comfortable you are the less likely you will tense up. Make sure that your partner approaches things at a pace you are happy and comfortable with. Have lots of foreplay, the more aroused you are the easier it will be for your partner to penetrate you.

Above all enjoy yourself, take your time and go with the flow, don't build your expectations too high or you will wind up disappointed. If most people were honest about their first time they would tell you that it was a disaster! Fantastic orgasmic sex comes (if you'll excuse the pun!) with time, don't expect to be swinging from the chandeliers on your first attempt!

As for bleeding, you may experience some spotting after the act but this is perfectly normal.

Have fun!

Answer 3

It's going to hurt and your going to bleed. Just make sure he's being very tender with you, and not going to hard. Make sure that he's paying attention to how you feel. He's going to be very excited for himself, but it's important for him to be gentle at the same time. I wish I would have waited to have sex when I was an adult. My current boyfriend would have been the perfect guy for me to lose my virginity with because he's so tender and caring when it comes to me in the bedroom. I was extremely young when I lost my virginity, and the guy could care less seeing that we were so young. I do know that it hurt pretty bad, and I was bleeding a lot. I bled the first two times. I have never heard of girl having an orgasm the first time she had sex. If so then it's very rare. You'll be in too much pain to orgasm the first time. You and your partner have to familiarize your bodies first before you can orgasm. He has to hit the right spot to get you there. Once you start having sex more and more then you will be able to orgasm if he does it right.

Answer 4

In one word.......OUCH!!
I don't want to scare you because it is a natural thing for our bodies to do and was created by God. However, it did hurt the first few times for me and I had bleeding the first two times.
It takes a bit of time and practice to reach orgasm as well.
Don't expect for it to be "fun" at first. Because it will hurt, your body will naturaly be tense and you must be relaxed to reach orgasm.
The only part about the first time that will be nice for you is the feeling of closeness. However, you could get that from just making out with out actual sex.
If you're a teen, I honestly suggest waiting. It's really not all it's cracked up to be until you're in a relationship like marrige.
I don't mean to sound like your teachers or mother, but it's true.
Good luck!

Answer 5

Just relax and lube is always a good idea!
it could be a little pinch like pain the first time depending if you've been ripped before- honestly most girls have ripped as children doing sports etc.
you might bleed some do some dont.
as for the orgasm- I don't know...

just remember you can always say no and stop.

also the pinch feeling only lasts a couple minutes and then you're fine!

enjoy!
and don't forget to use birth control!

Answer 6

sometimes it will bleed..sometimes it wont. but if it does it shouldnt bleed very much..basically just a little spot
the first time it will hurt like hell (cuz its tight down there) sry i dont mean to scare you, just preparing you. it will help if you use lubrication..like many said. but i think it is the less sensitive your body is the less it will hurt. so you might be different and have a body immune to that kind of pain...maybe i should say theres a chance it might hurt that bad not that it will.
but if you really love this person enough to do it with them...you will find that the more you do it the easier it will be.
just relax and dont be tense...make sure no parts of your body are stiff. its alot better when you spread your legs.

its kinda like when you get a shot with a needle...if you close your eyes that can relax you too

Answer 7

I agree with the lubrication. For me the first 10 times hurt like hell and I would have given up if I wasn't so stubborn. Howerver, looking back I was young and didn't really know my body at all. Comfort and familiarity are helpful.
Have you orgasmed before? Its rare to orgasm from intercourse, particulary the first time (romance books are such liars!) but you could still orgasm orally or maually.
Also, if you want to, go to oyur gyno a few days before you plan to have sex and have him/her break your hymen. Doctors do this all the time for women who don't want to experience pain their first time.

Answer 8

Even it Hurts and Bleed, Yet this has a great excitement and achivement. But take care it is better to avoid sex prior to age 18 yrs and without proper precaution as condoms or so..

Answer 9

I can only answer your question based on age, if your not 18 yet my best advice is to WAIT! believe me it's not all its cracked up to be. And you'll be thankful you did wait.

ok so I just read your other questions and one of them says this girl I've been seeing and than this question says I'm a female...so whats going on?

Answer 10

u will bleed u will break ur hymen and it may hurt a little the first time make sure to use lubrication