He is a vice president in a Fortune 500 Company. The wife works part-time (15 hours per week) as a social worker. They have two kids 8 and 4. After the kids go to bed, four nights a week, he smokes weed. His wife asked him not to but he seems unable to give it up. He is not high when he goes to work. He has never abused or neglected the kids, he continues to support his family well.
Should she leave him? They are both in their early 40s.
2007-02-21 04:02:57 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would she leave him? He is good provider, husband and father. So what if he smokes weed. Its not much different from drinking if you ask me. The only reason it is illegal is because the gov't has not figured out how to make money off of it yet...theres too much of it. If she keeps asking him not too, then sooner or later he will start hiding it from her, and maybe start 'going out' to do it and who knows where that may lead and what other 'secrets' that may lead too. I am sure there are lots of "understanding" (nice word for homewreckers) women out there willing to put up with this behavior.
2007-02-21 08:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that he is under a lot of stress from his job, and the weed helps him relax. I know for a fact that you can be a high achiever and smoke pot every night.
It isn't a problem-free choice, however. The big thing that I would be worried about is his supply mechanism. It is illegal, and he wouldn't want to be stopped for speeding on his way home from buying it. Cops know what it smells like, and if he had a joint with his supplier, and he rolls down the window and the cop smells it, he or she has probable cause to search the vehicle. An arrest for possession of a controlled substance is not going to do his career any good. Many states have categorized possession of a small amount of marijuana as a minor crime, but if he has it in his car in a high enough quantity, it's going to be a felony.
Also, the pot is probably better for him than going cold turkey with the stress of the Fortune 500 Company, but it's not the perfect chemical. Many people who smoke a lot of pot don't get much exercise, because smoking is conducive to relaxing. Also, many people who smoke a lot of pot eat a lot, as we all know. The habit can lead to weight problems.
In addition, pot smoke is supposed to not have the deleterious affect on your lungs as tobacco smoke. But it can't be good for your lungs. It's smoke.
Not to change the subject, but his real problem is probably being the vice president of a Fortune 500 Company. Those jobs are killers. I hope that he is investing his money well so that he doesn't have to do that job forever. He deserves to eventually go to a job where he's not driven to a stress-reliever every evening.
2007-02-21 12:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so because he probably smoked weed for a long time and thank God he hasn't moved on to something else. Maybe she should try getting him to go to rehab,( not like Ms. Spears) or a anonymous group and work on the problem. A lot comes into play the kids, the type of lifestyle she is accoustmed to and if she wants to leave-----SHE MUST PLAN!
2007-02-21 12:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by intelligent momma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That does not seem to be a good reason to leave him. It sounds like that is how he handles his stress. While it is not legal, he obviously has not gotten caught.
It sounds a lot like divorcing someone for smoking after many years of marriage. If you know about something going into the marriage and live with it for many years and it does not hurt you, there is no real reason to end the marriage. On the other hand, if it were hurting the woman or her children then she should end the marriage.
Take care,
Troy
2007-02-21 12:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so. i mean weed isn't as bad of a drug as people think, he obviously doesnt abuse it if he goes to work sober an all the other things. just think would you rather him be doing crack/cocain?? he probably does it to relaxe at the end of a hard day. i know lost of people who do that. i also know what it's like to be on the drug and the effects as well. if you keep pestering him about it he probably wont quit. instead he will lie about it and hide it from you? do you want that kind of dishonesty. people can't quite something if they don't want to. and threatning to leave him for somthing so miniscule shows a great deal of immaturity. however iof he does start to become violent toward you or the kids or loses his job then he should get help , not just from you but at rehab. best of luck to you, but instead of nagging just try to talk to him and find out his point of view for once.
2007-02-21 12:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by Samski 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually see nothing wrong with this man smoking weed in the privacy of his home. And as long as he's taking care of his family, his wife needs to leave the man alone (unless, of course, she wants to run him out into the streets, where he'll relax in some other woman's house). Pick your battles, lady,.
2007-02-21 12:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't see anything wrong with that whether he's "vice president in a Fortune 500 company" or a trash collector.
2007-02-21 12:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not just yet. If he habitually smokes weed then he probably needs rehab. He will be in denial and use the old "never hurts anyone" routine. But, it is an addictive drug that can ruin one's life, just as alcohol. He will be a better person for having gone through rehab. Check out hazelden.org.
2007-02-21 12:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definitely not. Let him enjoy his ganja...as long as he's doing it at night when the kids are asleep and no one is around to see, and as long as he's still remaining a mature and responsible father and husband...he simply just wants some relaxation time...i'd recommend that the wife join in on his sessions...sounds like she needs it.
2007-02-21 12:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by xoxo_sexy_biatch_xoxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid???? The man is clearly "self-medicating" for a purpose.....if he is what you say he is then the stress is high in his life...would you feel better if he tanked up on alcohol at the end of the day?
If he is a good faithful decent man...who cares if he tokes up at the end of a day...everyone has a method to cope...get off his back and enjoy that he (and you) are doing well...DOn't be the typical woman who has to have some sort of stress in their life.
2007-02-21 13:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋