I want think I have Gender Identity Disorder(GID). Im a guy that wants to be woman and im 17. Please help me with how I can tell my parents this, I need there support and love. Please Help Im Really Really Depressed, thoughts of suicide. No rude responses please. Thanks for the help.
2007-02-21 03:36:05 · 17 answers · asked by ♥Jesse♥ 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Every sensitive human being experiences, Gender Identity Disorder, at some point in their life. You are not alone.
At 17 years of age, you are also experiencing a dramatic hormone change in your body and it can affect your mind as well as your body.
Before you dive off into thinking that you have a lifetime disorder, please seek medical attention. Tell your doctor what is going on inside of you.
At your age, I am sure you would need to tell your parents something about why you want to go to see a doctor. It would be wise to give as little info to them as you can at this point.
After speaking with your doctor, you will have a better picture of the situation.
I am a woman and so many times I have desired and experienced masculine traits, because of different reasons.
I've learned that I can have a balance of feminine and masculine traits.
If you take sex out of the picture for awhile, many times a subject is easier to examine.
After you have searched you heart, soul, mind and learned about your body. Add sex back into the picture and then take a good look at your sexuality.
I think we all approach self evaluation, hopeing for a quick-fix.
There is a universe within you, it can't be explored quickly. Take your time discovering yourself and try not to label yourself.
Hint: I am always attracted to men who are not afraid of their feminine side and I am always attracted to women who are not afraid of their masculine side.
I hope I have helped you. It's so hard to know what is right for another person. I'm sharing of myself to you, but my counsel comes from my own experiences. Add your experiences and thoughts to it.
I hope other people will answer your call for help.
I am praying with you and hope you to receive good guidance.
2007-02-21 04:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by holermyname 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all jesse, forget those thoughts of suicide, its a permanent fix, for a temporary problem,
now thats better, ok, think, are your parents the kind to accept you and hear you out?, do they even have any clue at all that you might have GID?, if not, its better to drop subtle clues at first so you wont shock them, they need to be there for you,
ask yourself if you are absolutly sure you have GID, and make sure you know the answer
now think of a time when both your parents will be home and you three can be alone, and have a private conversation.
tell them you need to talk to them about something important, just be upfront and confident so they will take you seriously.
perhaps you want to start off by saying the conversation will be about you and that you need them to just hear you out, tell them you have not ever felt comfortable being you, or being in your skin. (perhaps this is a time to end the conversation after they talk so you can come back for more later after they have considered this and they are more ready, or you could just go ahead with the whole thing)
tell them it is making you rather depressed not being able to tell them certain things about you, and depressed because you are sure you have gender identity disorder.
state that you need their love and support and that you need help because you are so depressed and confused. BUT be sure to state that you are sure you have this disorder,
IF any yelling starts to occur just sit there calmly and listen to them, maturely. this way you will be taken more seriously, and then you can argue or explain your point. if your parents dont listen to you in the beginning its just becaused they may be shock but they will come around cause they love you. explain that youre not trying to hurt them and all that.
good luck, and god speed :)
2007-02-21 03:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by JulyBeetle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure if your wanting to become a woman is something that you should feel so depressed about or have suicidal thoughts over it. If your parents truly love you they'll stand with you no matter what. Remember- you are someone's child; someone's flesh and blood and there are people who love you. Go to your parents and simply be open and honest with them about what's going on inside of you. If they are loving and responsible adults they'll realize that you are their son and are going through a rough patch right now. Whatever you ultimately decide to do, it's your decision that I'm certain you won't make lightly. If you were my son, I'd spend alot of time with you and help you through this to a conclusion that we both were comfortable with. Don't be depressed and please dismiss any and all thoughts of suicide. You deserve to be loved and have a chance to live and become the best person you can be. Hang in there, little man. You'll be fine.
2007-02-21 05:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by 4everamusedw/humanity 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would spend time reading biographies about people with GID. I think it might be important to figure out why it's important to you to tell your parents. What are the reasons you believe telling your parents will make you feel less depressed? Mainly - Just be in your skin....don't subscribe to all the standards and stereotypes.... There is a reason it is hard to be yourself....it's because the reward is so great.
2007-02-21 03:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by aguardiente_blkr 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are only seventeen and you need to see a therapist for your depression. Once your depression is relieved you can deal with this issue, but you must give it time, the worst thing for you is to rush into something you may not want in five years. A Therapist is crucial for you, you can't deal with this on your own. You could see a school counselor, if you can trust them. To tell your parents may be premature, but you should let them know, that you are depressed and need to see a Therapist to be treated asap. Good Luck.
2007-02-21 03:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by flieder77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to be depressed unless you really dont want to be a woman, and are ashamed of wanting it. I would only tell your parents if you knew they would be supportive. If they would not, then you need to find yourself a different support system. Look online, I am sure there are support groups for this kind of thing.
2007-02-21 04:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Before you tell your parent I think you should get some counselling so you know for definate that is what you want. If you tell them you think and then you find out you were wrong you will have hurt a lot of people for nothing. Good Luck with what ever you decide and your parents should understand.
2007-02-21 03:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by alice 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nobody can tell you how to talk to your parents... only you know that, but you need to discuss this with them and get some therapy before making any decisions. It`s nothing to be ashamed of, and suicide isn`t the answer.
2007-02-21 03:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go up to your parents and tell them 'I want to be gangster' and blare some music like this up from a stereo you're holding up in the air on your shoulder: http://youtube.com/watch?v=EKxrNz8x4Z4 then say 'just kidding! I just want to turn my self into a woman.' Your father will go 'phew! You almost gave me a heart attack there son... WAIT!!! A WOMAN!!! THAT'S ALMOST AS BAD AS BEING A GANGSTER!!!' Ok, I guess that won't work, sorry!
2007-02-21 03:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by Crancrab1 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
why do u want to be a woman? dont consider suicide. Maybe you should see a psychologist.
2007-02-21 03:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by fstellar6 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋