I need help.;....plzzzzz?
I am in true love with a girl from our grade (i'm in 9th grade, 14 yrs)
here, in india, love at this age is very uncommon,
but i realllllllllly love her very much
we've been good frndz for 8 years....i like her a lot
i dunno whether she loves me at all...
my feelings arent sexual, but i think i cant live without her
this dream keeps haunting me that i've 2 leave her nxt year after 10th grade.
i dont wanna tell her abt this... b'coz it contains a RISK of losing frndship....and i dont wanna lose her
pleease help me
p.s......if i know her feelings about me, i can then rest. and concentrate upon other thingz like sudies as then atleast i'll know her feelings
i dont like being in a dilemma
2007-02-21 03:35:07 · 7 answers · asked by methegr8 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
That's really sweet of you to admit your feelings. A lot of teenage boys have a little trouble admitting their feelings to others. Well, I have many suggestions. You could:
~Write it in a letter. If you're too afraid to say something to her face, then a letter works great!
~Do something fun together, not really a DATE, but some "friend time", you know? It could be a date to you. You could ask her to the movies. I know there are great Indian ones out. Have you seen Munna Bhai? Cracks me up!!
~Invite her to your home for a movie. You could rent some EASY and have a great time. About half-way through, put your arm around her. THIS IS GREAT. If she doesn't like it, you won't lose your friendship, but if she does, you've got a whole lot more.
~Give her a little gift. Flower, chocolate, anything.
~Friends for 8 years, eh? Well, that means she at least LIKES you, right? Remember the arm trick!
Well, I hope I helped. Best of luck, I know what it feels like!
2007-02-21 09:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Mischa S. ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off all....I think this is really SWEET!!! I would think that u would have to find a way to find out how she feels about u without seeming too OBVIOUS. I know everyone is saying just tell her..BUT REALISTICALLY, how easy is it to go up to a person you really like, and tell them you have feelings for them?? Not very!! DEFINATELY EASIER SAID THAN DONE.
But here are some things to try:
1.) Ask her friends what they think and if she ever talks about you? Usually a girl's friend will know what's going on, or can even help you get closer to her.
2.) Ask her on a date. Think of something you would both enjoy, and go do it!! Could be going out to dinner, or some fun activity.
3.) Write her a letter. If you feel that u HAVE to tell her...Write it in a letter. That way you can avoid any face-to-face rejection. OR you just may get an I Love you too letter BACK!!
Good Luck!! I hope it works out for the best!!
2007-02-21 05:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So, you are in love? Well, keeping behind and not telling would really make you vulnerable! Tell her that you Love her! You got to have courage to speak up! She may deny at first because of those Indian customs and stuff but because you know her for 8 years the chances are she may love you! Even if she denies that she cannot break friendship with you because 8 years is a pretty long time in a friendship! Well, I am Indian too. I had the same problem when I was in 9 and 10. I loved a girl who I wasn't even a good friend of, I kept it to myself but now I regret not telling her. Whenever I visit India I go pass by her house and she looks back at me and that makes me think she might have loved me too but I was one of those unlucky person and now it is too late for me since I am no longer in India.
Don't fear what is going to happen, if you truly love her you would tell her that you love her that way you will be relaxed that you at least told her that you love her. Accepting it or not is up to her. MY experience with this world tells me that She will Not DENY you and You will both be able to Live Together! She may even Love you and she is probably waiting for you to begin! Remember, Girls in India don't make close friends with boys unless they have feelings for them! So, Think this as a Plus point and advance yourself to tell her! If you are afraid to speak up then write a letter to her! That will make you think of every possible thing you may like to include in a letter and be less tensed! But if she deny the letter than write to her again or TALK TO HER! She will not be able to deny for long enough! If the letter thing worked and she agreed than you want to SPEAK UP because that will make her think that You ARE SERIOUS About what you wrote!! Best of Luck! Feel free to email me if you need more suggestions on this Topic!
2007-02-21 03:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kashif Khundmiri 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I think you should ask what she thinks and if she feels the same then rell her how you feel if she doesn't don't say anything. Then be her best friend and get closer and MAYBE she might feel different after a while.
2007-02-21 04:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
oh, that's so sweet! if you've been friends for that long, she'll respect you enough that you can tell her how you feel. if you want to know how she feels without asking her, maybe you could politely ask one of her other friends?
2007-02-21 07:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Off the Key of Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have those type of feelings you should tell her. if you love her its worth asking. just let her know that its nothing sexual. good luck
2007-02-22 08:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by BaBy gUrL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her how she feels
2007-02-21 03:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋