What should I do?

Question

I feel my life is going nowhere.

I met my boyfriend 4 years ago down the pub when I was a outgoing bubbly 17 year old.

Since we have been together I never go out. He is 8 years older than me and has no interest in having a social life he prefers getting home from work and relaxing. He says he has had all his fun and done all he wants to and now just stays in playing computer consoles.

If I bug him to take me out he gets really angry with me.

We have just got our own place and he has taken a job with the company I already work for and we are in the same building.

I have always wanted to work abroad/travel and do something with my life but know I feel stuck.

Im only 21 and feel so trapped. Should I give up my boyfriend, house and job to do what I have always wanted?

Answer 1

You only live once, you are still very young, do not waste any more of that young life on this dull man. He may be a good man and worth giving a chance, so talk to him again. Tell him how you feel and you want a life, you may not be able to get him to think your way in which case move on now.
If you leave it and do nothing you will look back one day and wonder where the years went, taking with them your hopes and dreams.!!

Answer 2

He sounds seriously selfish! You have all your life to lead and enjoy still and he's holding you back - but your also letting him! He's 8years older, that doesn't make him dead. If he is unwilling to go out occassionaly when you want to then he's just being selfish. Yeah you have a house etc but you'll only grow resentful towards him. Maybe you should tell him exactly how you feel, maybe he doesn't realise how upsetting/annoying you find it. A realtionship is about give and take, is he giving anything?!

Answer 3

Jeez, what's wrong with him? He's only 29 for goodness sake, yet acting like some doddery old g*t of 80! Both of you have got a lot of living still to do (at 29 he can't have done everything fun there is to do)! If he won't have fun with you, then have fun without him! You're only through this way once, make the most of it! Advice from a 53-year-old who hasn't yet finished having fun and still has a lot of things to get done! He's boring sweetie, face it!

Answer 4

Definatly! I am sort of in the same situation and I know I need to take my own advise.

Its bloody scary but im sure you wont regret it, live your life dear and enjoy it. You dont want to look at yourself in 10 years and say and "what if? or I should have.. "its too late now" Well its not too late right now! So do it :D x and good luck!

Answer 5

Honest - YES you should!!! He's had his life, why don't you have yours - simple! Fair enough you may love him but if you stay with him you'll end up hating him and thats a horrible feeling to carry.

Please - go and have fun You don't wanna end up old b4 your time. Either that or your grow old and have resentments and regrets that you let life pass you by al because of him!

Answer 6

its a tough decision ur going to have to make but i know at 21 i wouldnt want to be tied down.u need to try talking to him and explain how u feel if he doesnt give you space then hes obviously selfish and obbsessive.i went through more or less the same when i was 17 dont just let it go on

Answer 7

Hi

In a word hun, YES. It appears you have fallen under the spell of a very controlling man who has sapped you of your self esteem. Go out and live life, but while you are doing it please remember to be careful and dont fall for the first fella who shows you affection. Be true to yourself, good luck.

Dean

Answer 8

DO leave him!!!! Your young and obviously have a stronger zest for life! Go and enjoy it, before you regret it and love with turn to resent!

Answer 9

If I was you ,I will give up.You still young.Actually You are older than me. You will be more meature through such experience.
Love should not by one side.

Answer 10

haaa b****