I love him but not in love with him. He is a wonderfu person and very loving. I know I will not meet anyone like him. This is from my years of experience. But still I am not in love with him. How can I fall in love with him?
2007-02-21 03:31:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hmmm interesting question, first try to find a common ground with him and move from there, like making his favorite dish and then plan some long love making nights, and make sure he is meeting your every need , and hitting all the moaning spots and only you know what those are. Also make sure you make him hit those same moaning spot and bring him to higher explosion then ever before.
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2007-02-21 03:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by beecharmed_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read "five love languages" and/or "his needs, her needs" or similar book on how different people feel loved in different ways. But also reinstitute dating or activities you were involved in when you felt more in love.
Also remember that love (the choice to be committed) is better than being in love (raw emotions that tend to come and go), but when you are committed the emotions will return.
Help in making them return? This will sound like your husband is paying me, but really, LOTS OF SEX. Playful sex. Romantic sex. Sex. It will make him feel loved and then he will want to spend more time and energy on making you feel loved. Don't feel like sex is a waste because you would prefer it to have a different emotional base. It can, and will work, the other way around too.
All these people that say you can't control your own emotions are wrong. Bought into a model that makes outside circumstances responsible for their own happiness. Always a bad plan. The emotion of being in love comes and goes. Hang in there and stay committed.
2007-02-21 03:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Wind Chime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by pereyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation with my husband, it's not a good feeling. I think it takes courage to let someone truly love you and be able to return the love in the same way. Communicating is always the best way to achieve results. I wish you luck and happiness.
2007-02-21 03:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by harley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot MAKE yourself do anything like that.
Probably when people say this it means the thrill and spark has gone. It can never be like when you were first together, but you can do things to make your lives more exciting.
The best thing for anyone to do is to take the initiative - take a leap and do something fabulous for your husband for no reason other than to excite him. See how it happens. Do it again. Eventually he will reciprocate.
2007-02-21 03:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry hunny but the same thing happened to me, you cannot make yourself fall in love with ssomeone no matter how hard that you try because you aren't being true to yourself. it's not fair to him either, it sounds as though you are headed towards divorce. You may want to try some counseling but I doubt it will help. Talk with your husband.
2007-02-21 03:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by *Jenny from the block* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell yourself you are. Love is all in the mind and what you tell yourself it is at any given moment, the qualities that you find important at the time.
2007-02-21 03:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of all his good qualities but you cant make yourself fall in love with someone love just happens you cant force it
2007-02-21 03:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Alsaqri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For how long have you been married? Have you got kids?? What about his desires?? & yourS??? Think seriously about this issue ... whether U have another soulmate type of person in mind????????
2007-02-21 03:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're supposed to fall in love before you marry.
2007-02-21 03:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋