Recently I stopped hanging out with my friend b/c she is really depressing. I totally just cut her off because i didn't feel like arguing with her or fighting. She has a tendency to act like a stalker at times, and she is really psycho ( thas why I ended our friendship) b/c it's be friends with me or else. And I don't feel like it is fair. I am much happier when she and I aren't together b/c she is constantly clinging on to me, and this makes me depressed. I can't have other friends, boyfriends, or just have time to myself. I don't know what to do cause she continues to stalk me, even though i don't talk to her any more.
2007-02-21 03:24:20 · 12 answers · asked by trickortreat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yeah did a good thing by cutting her off. Just stay away from her, if you feel that you are actually in danger then you can go and get a protective order through the court system.
2007-02-21 03:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Something that may help is if you tell her that she is scaring you. She may not be aware of the effect this is having on you, and it may help her to think about someone other than herself (i.e. you) for a moment.
You sound like you need to put distance between yourself and her, and you need to make it clear to her that this is what you want.
If she cannot / will not accept these things then you should consider talking to someone in a position of authority - there may be options available before restraining orders. The police may be able to adivise you, possibly have a quiet word with her so that she understands the seriousness of the situation.
If nothing else works, take out a restraining order - if you do - call the police if she even slightly breaks it - it is a very serious thing and should be treated very seriously by you and her.
I hope you get this sorted.
2007-02-21 11:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still living with your parents you need to talk to them. If you are living away from home you may want to talk to a responsible family member of your friend's first.
Tell them: What initially happened ie. why you decided the friendship was not good for you. Then, how you have observed this stalking behavior ie. how many times in how many days or weeks she has popped up uninvited at your home, school, or work. If she has threatened you with "If you aren't friends with me I will kill you/ or kill myself/ or I don't know what I will do to you or me."
Stalking behavior usually gets worse and can lead to injury or death of one or both ends of both the stalker or the person that is being stalked. Sometimes it can lead to injury or death of a close relationship to the person who is being stalked such as a b/f, new friend, or family member.
If she makes any threats like the above:
1. Tell your parents if you are living at home immediately.
2. Tell a school counselor if in school (that includes college, colleges deal with this frequently because kids are away from home for first time and they can get wierd.)
3. If over 18 and not living at home collect all your information from above and call the nonemergency line of your local police department. A lot of states have stalking laws. At the very least they will counsel you on what to do next.
4. If you feel you are immediate danger call 911.
5. Do not take the law into your own hands.
It may sound like I am over reacting but in my experience I have heard and seen many stalking incidents happen to other people in my life. It happens through all stages of life.
If you are under 14 be sure and tell your parents, school counselor and or teacher. Tell them how scared you are or how restricting this situation is.
2007-02-21 11:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like that. She totally lost it. I spoke to a counselor and made other friends. As long as you record whatever it is that she does to you, she can be stopped by someone at school, work, or if it gets to that point (and I hope it doesn't) the police (ex. restraining order). I've gone as far as changing my cell number, email and screenname just to get some peace. Good luck and just try to make new friends.
2007-02-21 11:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by woohoo219 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to talk to someone, one of her family members, and see if they can get her some help. Secondly, if the stalking continues, go to the police and file a restraining order against her. Be careful.
2007-02-21 11:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by 235 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would contact the police and let them know what is going on...too many wierdos out there nowadays...maybe she needs to go see a counselor...i would give her a name and number of someone and let her know that u no longer want anything to do with her and if she continues to stalk you you will file a ppo on her...good luck!!
2007-02-21 11:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by repodana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to come out and tell her that you don't want to be friends with her anymore. Share your feelings with her and let her know that you feel she is stalking you and that if she doesn't leave you alone you will take the situation to the police.
2007-02-21 11:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by vgibson81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Warn her that she needs to stop stalking you, and inform her that there are laws against stalking. If she doesn't listen, call the police on her, once she sees you are serious, she will keep her distance.
2007-02-21 11:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats scary. Have you thought of a restraining order? That would put a damper on that flame. You should feel safer. Good Luck with that.
2007-02-21 11:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by mtoutlaw_87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk with a counsler about her she needs some help.Talk to her mother or somone else in her family maybe they can get her to leave you be if not you can always go and put a restraining order against her.
2007-02-21 11:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋