I have been having problems in my marriage. So I met this guy on the internet that gives me everything that my husband lacks emotionally. I love my husband, but I am tired of being treated the way I am. This other man has been wonderful to me and wants to meet me in person...but since I have started talking to him my husband has been treating me better. Before we were on the verge of divorce. I cant get this other man out of my head. I call him every day and we talk for hours. I am so confused what to do. Please give me some advice.
2007-02-21 03:22:52 · 21 answers · asked by GIRL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been there honey, and it is not an easy choice when your husband all of the sudden starts being "good". I dated a guy for eight months and my husband started to be "good" to me. The thing that I noticed about myself when I was dealing with this guy I had change. I started to dress nicer, I was more positive, and basically my needs were being met by this other man. You may be changing, husbands can since just like wifes if someone has an interest in you. The only reason why you can't get this man out of your head because right now he is making you emotionally happy. If it was me, I will tell you to get out of your extra-marital affair because you and your husband deserve the right to work out your relationship even if it ends. Because while you are married all the other man going to think about is what if your husband finds out about you and him. So, this will keep you and the relationship with the other man limited. The guy who I ended up falling in love with decided to work things out in his relationship after eight months as my companion. I hope darling you put your head on right and see things for what they are. Good luck.
2007-02-21 03:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by VON 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously you don't love or respect your husband, if you did you wouldn't have turned outside your marriage for any reason. Saying that your husband doesn't "treat you well" isn't an excuse for you to look for someone else.
You don't even know this "other" man, you are playing a dangerous game. How can you possibly say he "gives you everything your husband lacks emotionally" when you don't even know him or know if he's telling the truth?
You are being immature and selfish. You don't fix a marriage by introducing a third party into it. It would serve you right if your husband found out and dumped you - he deserves better.
2007-02-21 11:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are delving in dangerous waters. If you have marriage problems, you and your husband should go to marriage counseling. Speaking with a total stranger on the internet is very dangerous. How do you know his real intentions and who he really is? He could be a sexual deviate; a criminal; and may not even be a man....I would advise you not to meet him in person. This guy could be a dangerous man looking for vonerable and unhappy women on the net.
If you love your husband, my suggestion is to discuss your what is lacking in your marriage with your husband and then both of you go to marriage counseling. You can save your marriage I am sure; as you mentioned that your husband is treating you better; well then there is a chance that your marriage can be saved.
Please, do not under any circumstances, meet this person you are speaking to on the internet in person. It is extremely dangerous. Note: Anyone can hide behind the internet. You really never know who you are speaking with on the net. It is totally impersonal. So take that into consideration.
2007-02-21 12:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making a poor decission by having a internet ralationship. You need to focus your energy on your marriage. You can't do that if you have someone else on your mind, someone you don't really know by the way. The grass is not greener on the other side and unless he physicaly or mentaly abuses you he is really no dif. than most men in this world. You owe it to yourself and your husband to have a serious talk and let him know how you feel. Tell him that if he doesnt change some of the things that hurt you, you will have no choice but to leave him. You have to be realistic though, he is not going to change overnight but things should get better if he really cares about you. GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-21 11:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were having problems with your marriage why on the computer when you should of been working on ways to salvage your marriage, and sure this man makes you feel good let me guess you told him about your marriage problems and he is just so understanding and caring... sure he is because he is playing on your emotions, and letting you hear what he thinks you need to hear, but I guarantee it wont be the same in person, amazing how you can talk to a complete stranger for hours and not attempt to talk to the most important person your husband, I'm not being mean but just realistic, and food for thought wonder if that is your husband under another name that you have been talking to for hours...hmmm well good luck
2007-02-21 13:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are playing with fire here. I have heard of so many people who start out just like you and then think they are in love with this other person. Then they ruin the relationship with their husband and regret it later. If you love your husband you should at least try to talk to him and tell him how you feel. I think if you are so focused on this other man you are distant from your husband. I guess I'm saying if you love your husband try to work on your marriage and if it doesn't work out you will have no regrets.
2007-02-21 11:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by breezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband immediately and then tell him your committed to your marriage and want it to work and then tell other guy to get "LOST"!
You only have heartache in future and both you and husband will get hurt!
Walk away from other guy, or walk away from marriage right now, and move forward in your life.
But either way tell your husband the whole truth because what your having right now is an emothionial affair and that is as bad because it leaves allot of unanswered question in your life like "what if".
Don't travel that road you'll get hurt!
2007-02-21 11:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop calling , e-mailing this guy ect. you need to work on your marriage first , if things do not work out then you should move ahead and get a divorced , then meet this other guy .. some times men need to be reminded of the little things .. I know I have to remind my husband all the time ..
2007-02-21 11:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose between this man and your husband. You're cheating on your husband with this man ... is it worth throwing away your marriage?
Even though you think you know this man you're having an affair with, you really don't. Meeting someone online and being with them face to face are two different things. Be careful!! He may not be who he seems.
2007-02-21 11:28:44 · answer #9 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you fell if your husband was talking to another woman? I been married to my husband for 5 years and we fight more than we get along but I could never might him fell the way that you must be making your husband fell right now. Pick one of them so the other can get on with life.
2007-02-21 12:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by hollidayfun@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋