2007-02-21 03:16:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have lived with my bf for almost a year and have been with him a bit over two.
I know everyone says 'why buy the cow when you buy get the milk for free"...blah blah blah!!
My guy & I talk about marriage, we both know that it is in our future. He has stated to me several times he wants to be secure financially, etc. Basically I know he is waiting until he can save up and afford a nice ring and a romantic propsal, Ive told him I don't need all that but he insists he wants it to be perfect.
Perhaps your guy is just waiting until he has the money to afford a beautiful ring for you! Or it just hasnt been the right time yet and he hasnt decided how he wants to!
Do you have conversations about marriage? Has he said he looks forward to his future with you?
If not, I would suggest you sit and have a conversation, and see how he's feeling! Good luck!
2007-02-21 03:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey Miss G, My guy lives with me for 3+ years and he's proposed marriage LOTS of times but never a ring, says he can't afford one. I'm NOT wanting to marry again. It is definately over rated. But if you haven't had a wedding then I can see why you'd want one. How about a dedication day instead. The whole wedding thing but without the state getting involved. Church ceremony and all but NO state license. So in the eyes of God you'll be married but not according to the state law. This will save THOUSANDS of dollars when you, or him, wish to break it off. I told my guy I would do this with him but not the state wedding. Like most of the ppl have stated; "it's just a pc of paper, it won't change the relationship". A commitment comes from the heart. So a wedding ceremony in a church without including the state should give you the commitment and desire for a "beautiful" wedding. NO one would have to know but the two of you. It's a thought!
If your heart is set on him making it legally binding talk to him. Find out his feelings on the matter of marriage. My cousin dated a man for 4 yrs before he told her he loved her! Next thing she knew he popped the question to her! They never lived together but she gave "the milk away for FREE" their entire relationship. ~wink~ Think, if the marriage license cost you and him $3,000 would you still want to get it? Just a thought...too many divorced couples out here, along with unhappy married couples. Please think long and hard on this one. Good luck!
2007-02-21 04:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hate to sound crude, but there's an old saying, 'why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" sorry for that crude remark, but most men (not all, most) are afraid of the marriage commitment..............as for what you should do to find out his marriage or not intentions, perhaps someone else on this site can help with that part!!
2007-02-21 03:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be blunt, so brace yourself: If he wanted to marry you, he would have by now.
As it is, there is no reason why he should marry you, because you're acting like a wife without requiring anything in return.
Find some self-respect, move out, and move on. And in the future, don't move in with some guy unless he puts a ring on your finger and his name on a license first.
2007-02-21 03:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess.........NO. But it's possible. My best friend lived with her boyfriend for 3 years before he proposed. If he is over 30....I say Heck NO.
2007-02-21 03:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he? This is the problem with living together - He's comfortable and she wants more. I say that you explain that you will not stay in the relationship if marriage is not the plan. If it is the plan, then why the wait on his part?
2007-02-21 05:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, why buy the cow when you get the milk free? What's in it for him? He already has what he wants. Maybe a little more tax deduction? You should have waited for a ring before he moved in.
2007-02-21 03:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to all these "Buy the cowget the milk for free" morons...virtually EVERYONE give up the sex before marriage...who are these holier than thou people kidding????
Be glad you aren't married, should he turn into a cheater or azzhole, you can just walk away.....been there, done that.
2007-02-21 03:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should he? You've already given him everything he would have received from marriage with none of the responsibility or commitment.
The woman usually loses in this stiuation - good luck.
2007-02-21 03:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you talk about marraige before you moved in? Do you have kids together? Need more information. But based on what little you have said , I would say no.
2007-02-21 03:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋